My boyfriend's parents don't like me. They have judged me and they dont even know me...?

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Charltons

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my husband and i started dating and his family hated me too . his sisters said i was a whore ( didnt have sex until i married) and the list went on. at first we stayed at my house and rarely went to public ( i think he liked me but was afraid what his sisters would say ) . His mom didnt like me either and wouldnt even say hi to me when she saw me . I then married him NOONE showed up to our wedding and NOONE came to the recepotion from his family . I themn got pregnant. HIS mom not my mom was the only women i wanted in the room i thought this would help us bond (NOPE) but at least she did COME and was very nice. my son had his first bday and his mom and his step dad came ... to our party and we quite abnd didnt talk to anyone. now my son is 7 and we also have a 3 year old littel girl ...things havent changed . as a matter of fact his mom had a major surgery today and we didnt even know unitl i saw a lady at work and she asked m e how my mom inlaw was if she pulled though ! WHAT yup i had no clue neither did josh ... i have always been nice to them and swallowed my pride at every hoilday when we werent invuited and when our kids get gifts days soemtimes weeks later ... i have only a handful of times called her out and said how it hurts but it meant nothing.so I LOVE MY HUSBAND with the love i would use for his family , if you know what i mean . i try to be a better person adn allow them to be nasty i jsut dont go around them and smile smile smile when i do . it never will change for me . for you i dont think so either . be yourself and let him love you for you ,who cares if they dont ....youare not with them you are with HIM and as long as he is ahppywith you , you dont need his family or yours.... in your relationship . it is YOU and HIm at the end of the day .... good luck honey
 
I started dating m boyfriend almost 3years ago. We are doing great, but his parents still do not like me because....

About a year ago, one of my boyfriend's cousin (female,17yrs old) started talking to me. She had ran away from home and moved in with her boyrfriend. She messaged me on Facebook telling me she didnt talk to me sooner because she was not allowed to hang out with people outside of her religion because her parents said so. After messaging back and forth a few times on Facebook, she became bitchy and very very mean to me. I told her that I did not want to speak to her if she was going to be rude to me and tell me off for no reason, so she made up a lot of stories. She told all of her family, including my boyfriend's parents, that I hated everyone in the family and that all I do is talk shit about them. I was in shock when I found out what she had done and I didn't know what to do. I immediately let my boyfriend see the messages we had been writing back and forth and obviously proved her wrong! But his parents do not believe me.

To this day, my boyfriend and I have still been going strong and we are trying to get his family to believe in me, but they have a different opinion of me. It's been over a year and I called his mom so we can set up a day so we can meet up and start over. I hate people that judge me without even knowing me though, but I know I love my boyfriend and I do not want things to get worse because we are getting married in December.

Im going to talk to his parents soon but I just do not know how to tell them that it hurts me that they disowened me without even asking my side of the story. They just think I did say a lot of s.hit and I manipulated my boyfriend into believing me. What should I tell them when I meet with them? And how should I express my hurt without pushing them further away?
 
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