We've been together for three years and he wants to sign up as a medic. He thinks if he goes in as a medic, he'll be able to leave when he's fully qualified and become a paramedic, which is his dream but he doesn't have any qualifications as such and can't get it via the university route. I know hardly anything about the army except it's so dangerous, and that's what scares me the most.
Thing is, I'm worried he doesn't know what he's getting himself into and I'm worried he's only seeing it as an 'easy' option (which it isn't) to fulfilling his dream. I've told him I'm willing to support him 100% if he makes sure he's doing it for the right reasons, but he's the sort of guy that doesn't do his homework on anything and does a lot of things on a whim, later realising that it was a bad idea. He's having a rough time getting his grades in college and told me that he's sure the army is the only way he can be a paramedic. Plus, his best friend's just about to go into the army and they do everything together, so is that another reason why he wants to sign up?
I don't know what to do. I'm worried about him going in for so many reasons, but at the end of the day it's his decision and I don't want to seem like I'm being unsupportive if and when he does decide to go. I love him to bits and I'd be more than happy to wait for him, but at the same time I'm worried he's not cut out for it. What should I do?
By the way, we've talked about it and I've told him all my concerns but he just keeps telling me about all the benefits he'd get. Please help!
Thing is, I'm worried he doesn't know what he's getting himself into and I'm worried he's only seeing it as an 'easy' option (which it isn't) to fulfilling his dream. I've told him I'm willing to support him 100% if he makes sure he's doing it for the right reasons, but he's the sort of guy that doesn't do his homework on anything and does a lot of things on a whim, later realising that it was a bad idea. He's having a rough time getting his grades in college and told me that he's sure the army is the only way he can be a paramedic. Plus, his best friend's just about to go into the army and they do everything together, so is that another reason why he wants to sign up?
I don't know what to do. I'm worried about him going in for so many reasons, but at the end of the day it's his decision and I don't want to seem like I'm being unsupportive if and when he does decide to go. I love him to bits and I'd be more than happy to wait for him, but at the same time I'm worried he's not cut out for it. What should I do?
By the way, we've talked about it and I've told him all my concerns but he just keeps telling me about all the benefits he'd get. Please help!