My boyfriend wants sex; but don't yet. Should I break up with him?

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We've been going out with each other for about 3 months. He's constantly making it known he wants to have sex, but I keep telling him I don't feel ready yet. i'm 16, and he's 18. Sometimes I dread meeting him because I know he's going to turn the conversation onto it. I love him but his pressuring me is really annoying, he's even told his friends we haven't done anything which obviously hurt that he would be talking about me like that. I think like if I did it, it would end the one downside of our relationship but I don't want to pressured into something I don't feel ready for. I'm wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and if so how did u resolve it? is breaking up the only option?
 
Seems like he is only interested in one thing. He should respect that you are not ready and not mention it again until you say you are ready. Do not give into peer pressure because you will regret it if you are not ready. If he does not respect your wishes then tell him to go and get someone who will give it up to him in 3 weeks. He should respect that you have respect for yourself.
 
don't give in he dose not respect u at all he ent worth you or your time if he dont wanna wait then tall him to go some wear else if u do give in you will regret it he will most prob leave u after so stay strong.

good luck
 
It is perfectly normal for him to talk to his friends. He probably thinks that you not being ready is because you dont like him enough and he is searching for advice. It isn't a crime to talk to your friends about your gf not wanting sex, this is a very common topic in groups of men AND women alike in adult society.

Do you think you have actually explained the reasons to him enough for him to understand your position? Or have you just refused and told him you arent ready? Perhaps you should have a proper in depth conversation, because he obviously doesnt know he is jepoardising the relationship, he doesnt realise how you feel. He isnt a mind-reader and he doesnt know your true feelings until you tell him.
 
Lol your boyfriend is obviously an arse so i would get rid of him because he doesn't respect your wishes at all. If your not ready yet he should just give you time..Good luck to you.
 
i will ask him whether he love me or not...if yes, he must prove it by not making any "stuff" with me until we already marry.....
unless i will break up with him...
 
you sound like a very mature young woman and it makes a nice change on here.
you must stick to your gut feeling, your right if he has told his friends you have not done anything then you can be sure if you did sleep with him the first thing he would do is tell all his friends
and that shows you this boy is only after one thing
you have to tell him that your not happy with him telling all his friends about things that should be private between you.
then tell him your not ready for sex and you wont be for some time and that's it, if he loves you for you he will wait and respect your feelings but like you i think he will run a mile.

KAREN N
are you on drugs it might be normal for lads to talk about their sex life with their g/f where you live but its not where im from
 
when i was 15 i taught i was so in love with a fella named bobby he was my first love and he was 19 when we first started going out he did exactly the same thing thou and after 4 months of going out he said its time and whipped out some condoms i was scared because i was being pressured into it so much and after a really bad experience i got up walked away and he never rang or txted me again, it was horrible and i never trusted men ever since so take your time in making decisions especially if he is telling his friends bout your personal relationship that's really childish!!!!!!good luck!!! and if you do decide to have sex use contraception, you are the only one who can make this choice so make the right one, i personally would kick him to the curb!!!
 
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