I hate jerks
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an act? Hi everyone,
I just asked a question here about my boyfriend of nearly 3 years who used to be abusive, but sought help and became practically perfect. I used to be very sweet to him, and he said he became abusive because he knew he thought I was too nice and knew he could get away with it. It got so bad I started having panic attacks on a regular basis.
After around 2 years of things just escalating, I broke up with him. But we ran into each other again and he promised he had changed for good (he used to always promise that, but it was always a lie). It has been around 4-5 months since and he constantly texts me, buys me gifts/surprises all the time, surprises me with dinners and romantic activities, and basically acts very loving and sweet. He even changed his entire appearance. I know he loves me because everyone tells me...and I can see by his actions...
The problem is that after him being abusive for around 1 yr, i decided to study abroad. Ever since we got back together (I was originally applying for 1 semester, but ended up choosing 1 yr)...he will mention how much he will miss me and how scared he is I will leave him for another guy.
Do you think he is just putting on an act because of the high-chance I will be accepted to study in the country ive always dreamed of...? The truth is that I am very attracted to the men in the country I am choosing, but I am worried that if I stay with my boyfriend that when I come back and he sees that he doesnt have to worry anymore...he will become abusive again.
I just recently turned 21 and he (turning 28) is the only real boyfriend ive ever had.
I made an appointment with a school counselor about this, but could really use some advice here.
Thank you ^.^
I just asked a question here about my boyfriend of nearly 3 years who used to be abusive, but sought help and became practically perfect. I used to be very sweet to him, and he said he became abusive because he knew he thought I was too nice and knew he could get away with it. It got so bad I started having panic attacks on a regular basis.
After around 2 years of things just escalating, I broke up with him. But we ran into each other again and he promised he had changed for good (he used to always promise that, but it was always a lie). It has been around 4-5 months since and he constantly texts me, buys me gifts/surprises all the time, surprises me with dinners and romantic activities, and basically acts very loving and sweet. He even changed his entire appearance. I know he loves me because everyone tells me...and I can see by his actions...
The problem is that after him being abusive for around 1 yr, i decided to study abroad. Ever since we got back together (I was originally applying for 1 semester, but ended up choosing 1 yr)...he will mention how much he will miss me and how scared he is I will leave him for another guy.
Do you think he is just putting on an act because of the high-chance I will be accepted to study in the country ive always dreamed of...? The truth is that I am very attracted to the men in the country I am choosing, but I am worried that if I stay with my boyfriend that when I come back and he sees that he doesnt have to worry anymore...he will become abusive again.
I just recently turned 21 and he (turning 28) is the only real boyfriend ive ever had.
I made an appointment with a school counselor about this, but could really use some advice here.
Thank you ^.^