I had been going out with my boyfriend for a year. We actually have been broken up for the past month because of this issue but I would still like people's opinions because I still have no clue what was going on! And I know that he would like to get back together. So here it goes..
At the beginning he loved having sex with me and we just had fun with it, but then he began not to want to sleep with me anymore and would make excuses that he was tired or that "we already did it yesterday" and he claimed i was pressuring him to have sex. So I stopped initiating sex. After not having sex for about a month he still had no interest in it and he didn't like me touching him and didn't even like me making out with him in a passionate way. I felt like I was just his friend. Apart from this we got on great and he loved cuddling and was still affectionate. I spoke to him about this and he said it was all in my head. He would also say things like that all I wanted from him was sex and that it was all that I thought about. It hurt me a lot to hear him say these things because I loved him so much and I loved everything else in the relationship. We ultimately broke up because he said he was happy with the relationship the way it was and that he Just wasn't bothered with sex and wasn't interested in it and mainly because he wouldn't recognise how much it was hurting me. While everything else in a relationship is important, I felt that sex is also important and that you should want to do it with someone you love. Also I am only 22 and so is he.
He mentioned a few times about being down about college but I didn't think he was depressed. He also joked around a few times about being gay, but obviously he didn't strike me as gay (apart from his really tight t-shirts LOL). I should probable mention that while our sex life was very good most of the time, sometimes he wouldn't completely erect.
Also, we were both very adventurous sexually in the beginning, but now it seems to be just me. And its not a case of me not tuning hin on enough or not seducing him enough... he wont even let me near him!
I know I cant get a definitive answer from anyone but I'm just wondering what your opinions on the matter are. Thanks
At the beginning he loved having sex with me and we just had fun with it, but then he began not to want to sleep with me anymore and would make excuses that he was tired or that "we already did it yesterday" and he claimed i was pressuring him to have sex. So I stopped initiating sex. After not having sex for about a month he still had no interest in it and he didn't like me touching him and didn't even like me making out with him in a passionate way. I felt like I was just his friend. Apart from this we got on great and he loved cuddling and was still affectionate. I spoke to him about this and he said it was all in my head. He would also say things like that all I wanted from him was sex and that it was all that I thought about. It hurt me a lot to hear him say these things because I loved him so much and I loved everything else in the relationship. We ultimately broke up because he said he was happy with the relationship the way it was and that he Just wasn't bothered with sex and wasn't interested in it and mainly because he wouldn't recognise how much it was hurting me. While everything else in a relationship is important, I felt that sex is also important and that you should want to do it with someone you love. Also I am only 22 and so is he.
He mentioned a few times about being down about college but I didn't think he was depressed. He also joked around a few times about being gay, but obviously he didn't strike me as gay (apart from his really tight t-shirts LOL). I should probable mention that while our sex life was very good most of the time, sometimes he wouldn't completely erect.
Also, we were both very adventurous sexually in the beginning, but now it seems to be just me. And its not a case of me not tuning hin on enough or not seducing him enough... he wont even let me near him!
I know I cant get a definitive answer from anyone but I'm just wondering what your opinions on the matter are. Thanks