Sexy Mamma
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I have been with my bf for several years, he is a great guy, does not cheat, loves me, treats me well etc.
But financially he is a mess.
I love to go out and do different things, buy him gifts, go out to eat. I own my own home/car etc. But he cannot afford to do these things.
and it bothers me. I try to overlook it because i love him. But i can lie that im really not comfortable with it.
Often when we go out i have to pay for the meals or we go dutch.
Im not sure how to handle. Im not use to this. And i feel like the man should be able to provide and take care of his family.
I am not a gold digger, i am very giving financially. I spend so much on him for his b-days, christmas, etc. $400 xbox, $120 sneakers, $300 bed set, clothing etc.
And he is not a user. But i dont know what to do. I love him, but i hate that he does not have the money to do the things i want or take me out etc. I dont mind paying and i often do, but i just dont feel like he is being the man.
What should I do. He wants to get married. and i love him and want to also.
But I dont know if it would work because of this. I have had to loan and give him money for his own expenses. I feel like how can he support a family if he cannot do it for himself. I feel like being with him, brings me and my child down financially. He is a little older i am 29.
So my questions is ? Can this realationship work with me having these feelings, and if so how do i get over this.
But financially he is a mess.
I love to go out and do different things, buy him gifts, go out to eat. I own my own home/car etc. But he cannot afford to do these things.
and it bothers me. I try to overlook it because i love him. But i can lie that im really not comfortable with it.
Often when we go out i have to pay for the meals or we go dutch.
Im not sure how to handle. Im not use to this. And i feel like the man should be able to provide and take care of his family.
I am not a gold digger, i am very giving financially. I spend so much on him for his b-days, christmas, etc. $400 xbox, $120 sneakers, $300 bed set, clothing etc.
And he is not a user. But i dont know what to do. I love him, but i hate that he does not have the money to do the things i want or take me out etc. I dont mind paying and i often do, but i just dont feel like he is being the man.
What should I do. He wants to get married. and i love him and want to also.
But I dont know if it would work because of this. I have had to loan and give him money for his own expenses. I feel like how can he support a family if he cannot do it for himself. I feel like being with him, brings me and my child down financially. He is a little older i am 29.
So my questions is ? Can this realationship work with me having these feelings, and if so how do i get over this.