...make him change his mind? Im 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a few months now.. He's really nice and i love him to death ! we get along great and we have so much fun together. Their is just one problem he can be controlling and overly jealous. He doesn't let me go to the gym,wear make up or leggings and he wont let me work. my parents are always telling me to get a job and I really want to but if i do I'm afraid that he will break up with me. He always tells me that he'll buy me anything I need and want that I shouldn't have to worry about working but recently he called me a "gold digger" and he told me that all i was interested in was money. I do like the finer things in life but I have never asked him for anything ridiculously over the top. The most he's probably spent on me was 100$ the most I've spent on him is like 500$ for something he asked me for. but thats beside the point. What gets me mad is that I feel like he tries to control me, every time i'm going to go out he always asks if theirs guys their n if their is he'll get mad if i go. If i get home around 10 he'll be mad when he gets home around 3 in the morning. Everything that I want to do is always a problem he doesn't even want to let me play soccer because it involves wearing shorts. I feel like he's the one who's insecure? what do i do? i don't want to leave him ? and every time i try talking about it, it becomes an argument.
my boyfriend doesnt let me go to the gym, wear make up, or work what do i say to...
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To be honest, this really doesn't seem healthy. It sounds like what he's actually more interested in is controlling you, you called him nice, but I fail to see how being a dictator is nice, i think you should rethink whether you really want to be treated like this, and if not, then end it. I know you may really like him, or even more, but honestly, when hes causing this much trouble, and being this jealous, this controlling to the point where its like he doesn't want you to have a life outside of him, chances are this relationship is on the road to turning sour, and this could cause depression and a lower self-esteem. Reading this you might be a little sceptic, but the fact of the matter is, as you have even specifically said that you feel like he's trying to control you, "What gets me mad is that I feel like he tries to control me, every time i'm going to go out he always asks if theirs guys their n if their is he'll get mad if i go. If i get home around 10 he'll be mad when he gets home around 3 in the morning. Everything that I want to do is always a problem he doesn't even want to let me play soccer because it involves wearing shorts." and I believe you're right. Don't be afraid to just end this and walk away, there are nice decent loving guys out there, and even if you can't find someone right away, the freedoms of being single are nothing to scoff at, and you'll always have your friends and loved ones to support you. 
To be honest, this really doesn't seem healthy. It sounds like what he's actually more interested in is controlling you, you called him nice, but I fail to see how being a dictator is nice, i think you should rethink whether you really want to be treated like this, and if not, then end it. I know you may really like him, or even more, but honestly, when hes causing this much trouble, and being this jealous, this controlling to the point where its like he doesn't want you to have a life outside of him, chances are this relationship is on the road to turning sour, and this could cause depression and a lower self-esteem. Reading this you might be a little sceptic, but the fact of the matter is, as you have even specifically said that you feel like he's trying to control you, "What gets me mad is that I feel like he tries to control me, every time i'm going to go out he always asks if theirs guys their n if their is he'll get mad if i go. If i get home around 10 he'll be mad when he gets home around 3 in the morning. Everything that I want to do is always a problem he doesn't even want to let me play soccer because it involves wearing shorts." and I believe you're right. Don't be afraid to just end this and walk away, there are nice decent loving guys out there, and even if you can't find someone right away, the freedoms of being single are nothing to scoff at, and you'll always have your friends and loved ones to support you.
Jenny Jean
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um, you say "see you later babe". he is being wayy too over-controlling! tell him either he backs off or you're done, and if he doesn't think you're serious, let him know you are. end it. you deserve better, and you have the right to have the freedom to do whatever you want.
imported_Jenny Jean
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um, you say "see you later babe". he is being wayy too over-controlling! tell him either he backs off or you're done, and if he doesn't think you're serious, let him know you are. end it. you deserve better, and you have the right to have the freedom to do whatever you want.