my boyfriend died of alcohol and prescription overdose

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chima_mass5

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he died only 2 weeks ago. they are still doing to the toxicology report. he was fine during the day and was happy an enjoying life. then he went to bed really late and in the morning, i found him dead in his bed. he was cold and stiff. i don't know what time he died. i feel like i could have done something for him.
 
Julie: I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I know you're going to blame yourself over and over about it but please try not to. You need to get some grief counseling. Do you have a pastor or church that you can turn to for assistance? A close friend? What about his family? Mixing drugs and alcohol is not good. It's a recipe for disaster.

Time heals all wounds. You have a right to grieve as long as you need to. God has a plan for all of us. Some of us die before we even enter the world and many lives are cut short before they should be. Was he depressed? What was he taking for RX drugs? Wait for the toxicology report and see what it says. I'll try to talk to you if you need someone's shoulder to lean on.
 
Hello Julie,

I want you to know that we are here for you, if there is anything some typing on a page can offer you...It sounds like it was unexpected, and I am so sorry for your loss.

We all have our time, and it does not always seem fair, but once someone finds a place in our heart, they never leave.

I lost a dear friend to alcohol last August, and I think of him every single day, and smile.

Warmest wishes to you...stay strong, and be patient with yourself.
 
thank you for writing to me! was the death of your friend unexpected too? did you have to wait for the toxicology report? if so, how long did it take?
 
Hello Julie,

I am very sorry for your loss. Like it was mentioned before, you have all the right to grief as long as you need. No two people grief the same. But we all need to do several things during grief.
-We need to acknowledge the reality of the loss of our loved one.
-Work through the emotional turmoil.
-Adjust to the environment where our loved one is absent.
-Finally, we need to loosen the ties that we have with our loved one.
You won't go through all these steps at once. I would suggest you go to counseling to help you go through this tough time. Loosing someone unexpectedly is difficult, but do not blame yourself.

Be strong... My deepest regards...
 
Julie,

My friends death was not unexpected. He literally drank himself to death, like he was on a mission. By the time he finally allowed me to take him to the doctor, he was already consumed with all the related medical problems ...cirrhosis, hep C, pancreatic, jaundice, edema, acities (sp).

He was hospitalized for the last 10 days, and was getting hospice care in the hospital.

Even though he was very ill with alcoholism, we still loved him, and miss him. He was an amazing musician, so we do have many recordings of him playing and singing, which is where he was the happiest. We still get little messages from him too.

Please take the best care of yourself, and time will ease the pain. WE are always her if you need to vent, or to talk...

Love janet
 
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