My boyfriend broke up with me but my lover wants to meet for sex, I don't know what...

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...to do? I had an affair during the end of my abusive relationship to my partner of 3 and a half years. I was devastated when it ended 3 weeks ago, even though. I knew it would end eventually.
The thing is my lover still wants to meet. He says I don't hav to hav sex with him but feel pressurised into doing it when I'm there. I think it stems from the fact I was in an abusive relationship and scared if I didnt do what i was told. I like his company and when he holds me. The sex part is fine, but he wants it all the time like 4 times in one night. It like he using me. I'm using him in a way but more for friendship reasons.
I needed him during my abused past and now for support over my breakup, but I don't know if I should see him. Is it too soon? I dont know how to tell him I just want to talk to him rather than all the sex, but scared he won't wanna see me again. He is a good friend but feel like he only this way because of the free sex.
 
Then he is not a friend ? Like you said a sex partner is more like it... Get a good friend
 
this guy is obviously taking advantage of you! thats really low 2 take advantage of some1 who just got out of an abusive relationship!

of course, i could be completely wrong (if i am, sorry if i offended u) but if you dont want 2 have sex go out 2 dinner w/ him or something, so u can talk 2 him and spend time 2gether w/o the sex
 
I don't think you should settle for being used just so you can spend time with him. It seems he's using you're low self esteem to get what he wants from you. If he's not then he'd be happy just to spend time with you.
 
Sarah,

This is a tough love statement.

Your most valuable asset is 2 1/2 feet below your chin.

This guy is interested in one thing only. He will listen to you between banging, and if can do it 4 times in one night there is not much talking going on.

I strongly suggest you tell him you only want to talk and see if he shows up. Be ready for him to come on full force because if you can give it up that many times a night, he has hit a gold mine.

Now go drink a beer and find another booty call.
 
He can't be a good friend if he will only see you for sex. He just took advantage of your vulnerable state of mind.Get a real friend.
 
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