help!? We have been going out for 9 months, and we are very serious. One time in the first couple months we were dating we got into a huge argument and he had a party at his house got drunk, and kissed another girl. He told me the day after it happened and was very sorry but said "I'm sorry I was drunk!" (to which I said alcohol doesn't make you do anything you don't want to do). It took me a very long time to get over it. So then about a month ago I saw he was looking through my phone while I was sleeping (which is abnormal behavior for him) so I decided to look through his phone and found texts to this one girl he met once at a movie theater while working. He texted her first and said such things as "I can't stop thinking about you" "I like your smile" and was making plans to meet her. Needless to say I was furious and incredibly upset and long story short we are still together under the conditions that I can look through his phone whenever i want and all that good short leash type stuff.
So, the other day I got drunk and said I wanted to have sex with him and I was quite adamant about it. I have a rule i won't have sex within the first year of dating, but he knew me well enough to know I would regret it. All of a sudden I started crying when he said no (at this point I realized I would regret it in the morning, even though I still really wanted to) and then he thought it really was me then he said ok go get a condom and he was like are you sure? and I was like ehh... so we didn't but he was pissed. He felt very betrayed and hurt.
So yesterday I was looking through his history on his computer (I still obviously don't trust him that much) and I found that he was searching for this one girl at the movie theaters, some employee there and was trying to find her on facebook. Of course this reminds me of the situation before so i questioned him about it and he immediately got defensive saying i'm creepy and then he brought up the fact I hurt him the other day with the sex thing. Of course he isn't telling me anything about this girl but idk, am I being over dramatic? he refuses to talk about her and its starting to worry me. What do you think is up? WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?!!?
Btw if your reading this, thank you so much! I know that was a lot to read
So, the other day I got drunk and said I wanted to have sex with him and I was quite adamant about it. I have a rule i won't have sex within the first year of dating, but he knew me well enough to know I would regret it. All of a sudden I started crying when he said no (at this point I realized I would regret it in the morning, even though I still really wanted to) and then he thought it really was me then he said ok go get a condom and he was like are you sure? and I was like ehh... so we didn't but he was pissed. He felt very betrayed and hurt.
So yesterday I was looking through his history on his computer (I still obviously don't trust him that much) and I found that he was searching for this one girl at the movie theaters, some employee there and was trying to find her on facebook. Of course this reminds me of the situation before so i questioned him about it and he immediately got defensive saying i'm creepy and then he brought up the fact I hurt him the other day with the sex thing. Of course he isn't telling me anything about this girl but idk, am I being over dramatic? he refuses to talk about her and its starting to worry me. What do you think is up? WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?!!?
Btw if your reading this, thank you so much! I know that was a lot to read