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My 19 month old daughter is scared to death of her grandmother (my mother-in-law). My daughter fumbles with her fingers and looks down when she is around her grandma and acts withdrawn. The grandma hasn't been alone with my daughter much, I know she hasn't abused her and I don't think she has ever done so much as slap her wrist. However, when my daughter has told her grandma to "stop" or used a bad tone of voice (remember, she is 19 months), her grandma will slap the table hard or raise her voice with my daughter. Sometimes my daughter will play outside with her grandma without being fearful, but she is very uncomfortable around her grandma. The grandma doesn't like that my daughter is scared of her, but she still will raise her voice when my daughter really hasn't done anything wrong or slap the table...which scares my daughter and makes her more afraid of her grandma. I want my daughter to like her grandma and not to be scared of her. I try to persuade my daughter to play with her grandma, but when grandma consistently scares her it is difficult to make my daughter like her. Sometimes I feel like grandma is doing these things to see how I will respond (she usually looks at me after yelling at my daughter as if to see if she is stepping on my toes...like that is what she is hoping for). Any advice?