For the past year she has been fighting to adopt her half sisters child from another country. After spending almost $100,000 dollars and a very emotional rollorcoster, i feel that she has just lost control completely and i dont know how to deal with her any more!.. Heres some background info.. Her mother didnt love her and still doesnt, she was brought up by her grandparents, her father who she just met is a compulsive liar, and molested her half sisters. She then found out one of her half sisters had died, and left behind the child, and his father also recently died (this prompted her to adopt her) and then went through a hellish court case to get her here - and the child has very troubling mental issues ie, has an attachment disorder cant love etc.
I just want to list some symptoms i have noticed over the past year and a half in my mother in law in the hopes someone can help me deal with her better and explain if she has something wrong with her.?
Over reaction to the smallest things, ie. asking her a question about finance she will go banannas like.. OH YOU CANT DO THAT THATS STUPID I CANT BELIEVE U ASKED THAT!!
Over analyzing situations and peoples actions. Ie, her adoptive daughter what conditions she thinks she has, but wont take her to therapy or anything because "she doesnt want her in the system"
Has a great desire to control everything in her power including her childrens finances!
When an argument errupts, she resorts to telling others she has a higher IQ and she KNOWS BEST!!!
Tells family to be very secretive about her adoption case, but then tells everyone possible herself about the case - ie shop keepers, post office workers, people she doesnt know etc.
Will not authorise money to her husband to buy things for their potentially very profitable business and picks fights to get her own way with business matters.
But has no problems herself spending lots of money each day - ie, in a simple trip to the shops she spent around $500 on nothing in particular. Spends about $1000 on each person at christmas and birthdays. Then goes out of her way to spend more on the children because "she feels bad"
Buys things for her younger children when they act out - ie, a video games, toys, etc.
Deliberatly leaves her eldest son out because he went into the family business instead of doing what she wanted him to do. ie, doesnt invite him to bbq's, family events etc.. (very very hurtful to him and me)
This is just a small list of the weird behaviour she is showing.
Any one have any ideas what to do or how to handle her???????? PLEASE!!!!
I just want to list some symptoms i have noticed over the past year and a half in my mother in law in the hopes someone can help me deal with her better and explain if she has something wrong with her.?
Over reaction to the smallest things, ie. asking her a question about finance she will go banannas like.. OH YOU CANT DO THAT THATS STUPID I CANT BELIEVE U ASKED THAT!!
Over analyzing situations and peoples actions. Ie, her adoptive daughter what conditions she thinks she has, but wont take her to therapy or anything because "she doesnt want her in the system"
Has a great desire to control everything in her power including her childrens finances!
When an argument errupts, she resorts to telling others she has a higher IQ and she KNOWS BEST!!!
Tells family to be very secretive about her adoption case, but then tells everyone possible herself about the case - ie shop keepers, post office workers, people she doesnt know etc.
Will not authorise money to her husband to buy things for their potentially very profitable business and picks fights to get her own way with business matters.
But has no problems herself spending lots of money each day - ie, in a simple trip to the shops she spent around $500 on nothing in particular. Spends about $1000 on each person at christmas and birthdays. Then goes out of her way to spend more on the children because "she feels bad"
Buys things for her younger children when they act out - ie, a video games, toys, etc.
Deliberatly leaves her eldest son out because he went into the family business instead of doing what she wanted him to do. ie, doesnt invite him to bbq's, family events etc.. (very very hurtful to him and me)
This is just a small list of the weird behaviour she is showing.
Any one have any ideas what to do or how to handle her???????? PLEASE!!!!