mother in law trouble?

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i can't stand it because my boyfriend and i are young parents [i am 19, he is 21] and so we still live with his parents and everything i do, his mom copies. like she first she bought the same perfume and body wash i use, then everyday when i come downstairs with my make up [eyeshadow to be exact] on a certain way and certain colors, she will go upstairs and come back down with the exact same colors and everything, she never wore skinny jeans obviously she's an old woman not very in style, all of sudden she goes and buys some with the black flats which i always wear, and folds the jeans up the same way, then i bought grey skinnys and she goes and buys some too 2 days later. also, she will use my straightner to straighten her hair and then do it however i do it. isn't this weird for an older woman of 47?

i know some say this should be flattering me but it is more annoying than flattering. i know a lot of people copy other people like this so my question is, what do i do if there is anything i can do to quit being so annoyed by this. oh and what could i say to bring it her attention that i notice she is doing this, and not be mean about it? i just really want her to stop!!!
sorry i don't know which category to put this in!
um okay maybe you should mind your own business. i did not say anything about my baby and this question has nothing to do with my baby! stupid jerk
 
It does seem a little strange! Maybe she thinks that she's going to lose her son to you, and perhaps a little reassurance that she isn't might help? You could make little remarks like how important she is to him etc that could help make you less of a threat to her? Also, humour is a good resource at times - perhaps you could giggle on seeing her copy you and remark how she looks like your twin, and how people might mistake her for you to let her know that you know what she's doing, but in a non-aggressive way? I do wish you luck, it's certainly an odd one!
 
If she has allowed you to live in her home..then maybe it's best if you ignore all of this stuff. It's hard to know why she is doing this at her age 47yrs... Does she have daughters? or are you the only female in the house? anyway if everything else between you is ok then be a more mature woman and let it go. You could try encourage her to feel better about herself ..by telling her how good she looks for her age or buy her some little gift to let her know you appreciate her allowing you to stay in her home... but in the end of all this...does it really matter ? there will come a day when you will look back at her copying you and find it funny...so many more important things for you to be worrying about...like getting your own place to live in, when you do this ..you wont notice anything she does anymore.
 
It would seem to me that if you were not living in her house that is something that you would not have to worry about. Why are you living in her house? Young parents??? Well seems to me that maybe you were not ready to have the baby and maybe you should have thought about adoption and let the baby grow up with a couple that really wanted to have a baby and could afford one but just could not have a baby. I think you should look at yourself and ask why you need to live in your in laws house. You were old enough to make the baby not be responsible in every way for that baby. You should not be living in their home. Grow up
 
I'm 40s and my MIL wears more makeup than I do, wouldn't be caught dead without her hair done, and keeps herself up every day. What's the problem?
 
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