*Please excuse the lack of apostrophes in this, the key is broken on my laptop.
My husband and I have been married for only three months and my MIL seems to be causing problems already. If we are on Facebook chat shell chat to us all nice and then turn on us and ask why we havent been to see her 30 miles away. She accuses me of stealing her youngest son from her, tells me that she stays awake at night thinking about him, crying and worrying about him because hes 30 miles away, constantly tells him how he should look after our son and then when we say we dont have the money for the bus there and back all the time because were both job hunting with two young children after being made redundant, she texts him saying shes crying that hes not with her, that he doesnt care about his family nor have time for them, that she misses him etc. Hes tried telling her we dont have the money but shes always welcome here because she has a good job and a car but its not enough for her and I dont think it will ever be enough until we move into the house they bought around the corner thats still vacant so she can be closer to him.
I dont understand what her problem is. When my husband and I first got engaged he moved out from the house around the corner which wasnt with his parents 30 miles away and still keeps in contact every single day. She knows she is always welcome here and we try to go there when we can but its not feasable on such a low income to do it, especially when it costs £14 per day to visit with no car.
He wont tell her anything more than this because he doesnt want to hurt her feelings, Im extremely blunt and I fear that I may say something to really offend or upset her even though its well documented I dont think of her as the best person in the world and now shes harrassing me saying its my fault he doesnt want to know his family. He has a family, his wife and two children who were struggling to provide for and shes not helping with money so I dont see how she can complain.
I know this is all over the place and not very well worded but can someone tell me how to handle the situation? Ive tried being blunt, being kind, ignoring her, talking things through with her but its like swings and roundabouts with this woman.
My husband and I have been married for only three months and my MIL seems to be causing problems already. If we are on Facebook chat shell chat to us all nice and then turn on us and ask why we havent been to see her 30 miles away. She accuses me of stealing her youngest son from her, tells me that she stays awake at night thinking about him, crying and worrying about him because hes 30 miles away, constantly tells him how he should look after our son and then when we say we dont have the money for the bus there and back all the time because were both job hunting with two young children after being made redundant, she texts him saying shes crying that hes not with her, that he doesnt care about his family nor have time for them, that she misses him etc. Hes tried telling her we dont have the money but shes always welcome here because she has a good job and a car but its not enough for her and I dont think it will ever be enough until we move into the house they bought around the corner thats still vacant so she can be closer to him.
I dont understand what her problem is. When my husband and I first got engaged he moved out from the house around the corner which wasnt with his parents 30 miles away and still keeps in contact every single day. She knows she is always welcome here and we try to go there when we can but its not feasable on such a low income to do it, especially when it costs £14 per day to visit with no car.
He wont tell her anything more than this because he doesnt want to hurt her feelings, Im extremely blunt and I fear that I may say something to really offend or upset her even though its well documented I dont think of her as the best person in the world and now shes harrassing me saying its my fault he doesnt want to know his family. He has a family, his wife and two children who were struggling to provide for and shes not helping with money so I dont see how she can complain.
I know this is all over the place and not very well worded but can someone tell me how to handle the situation? Ive tried being blunt, being kind, ignoring her, talking things through with her but its like swings and roundabouts with this woman.
