mother in law problems!! HELP!?

[srodriguez731]

ive been with my man for 7 years, we have 3 children together. we've had our share of problems. money, time spent with the family(ours), he cheated(forgave and committed to working it out), and finally our stubbornness. my only problem is that his mother wont back off! i just recently found out she tells him lies about me. how im a gold digger(because i ask for support for our childrens expenses) her take is dont give me money but rather buy my kids what they need when he feels they need it, how i cheated on him(swear to god ive been completely faithful for 7 years), how im not a good mother( she thinks my children are too skinny when in fact they are just tall and well above their weight limit doctors said so) or how i dont have a job( currently looking everyday), im not a good wife, and the list goes on. we at one time was cool. she was like a second mother to me. now she hates me, we exchanged some nasty words 2yrs ago(she called me,cursed me out,so had it and cursed her out back)
now she completely hates me and will stop at nothing to split us up. its his mother. what do i do? how can i have him see whats it doing to us, to me. she looks for anything to say something bad about me. anything to have him angry with me. any advice? she wont talk to me, cant call her she'll just hang up, cant see her she'll just slam the door in my face. should i wtight her a letter? i reall y do miss us and it hurts that she hates me like this when i have done nothing wrong. she even befriended the girl he cheated om me with in hopes he'll leave me and go to her. what can i do? its hurting my family!

 

[Patty]

You sound like you have really tried to get along with her. The letter is your last resort, try that. If that doesn't work then you should really try and move on with your life. Every time she makes up another lie about you it is another wound in your heart. You need to distance yourself from her, she sounds like a mean, spiteful woman that is making your life miserable. You might feel terrible for a while but eventually you will feel better when don't have to listen to those lies all the time.

 

[Dyan O]

Mother in-laws are over bearing at times.. I know i have one.
Does your husband believe her, because if he does, then there is a big problem in your marraige. When we told my mother in law that I was pregnant, ( 1 1/2 years after we married) she asked my husband right in front of me " How can you be sure it's yours" Well, my husband replied " I know it's mine, but were not sure it's Hers" then he laughed" this is just one of the many remarks I have lived with over my 18 years of marriage So I know where your coming from but short of your husband standing up on your behalf there isn't much you can do, except ignore it.
By there way...you do work... Your a mom. you have a job.. maybe not a paying job, but it's harder work than you will ever come across and the most rewarding. So if you cook, clean, do the laundry and teach your children your are doing your job.

 

[Bob]

There is nothing you can do to fix this, he has to do it. He needs to tell her that he will not listen to anyone speak disrespectfully about the mother of his children, and that includes her. If she continues he needs to limit his contact with her, or at the very least not allow her to say any of those things around your kids.