Mother in law lives with us.?

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Like every other MIL I also have an annoying MIL but the problem is she lives with me!!! Her husband died few yrs back so now my husband wants her to stay with us. (Yes he never asked me about it, he just invited her over. We had several fights @ that so that is diff sub) So she is in my house 24/7 and interferes in every single thing. Even she interferes in what I should feed my 5 month old daughter. Since I work full time I don't have control over what she feeds her (daughter) when I am not there. And that creates problem between me and my husband.

I tried talking to her about other issues we have, she just debates and fights to prove she is right and i am not. so now i am even affraid of talking to her about this one or my husband who always asks me why she (his mother) can do this or that!!!!

I don't know how to deal with this. Any suggestion? Please help.

Thank you!
 
You are in a tough spot girl! The best defense is just to be yourself. When you have a feeling, express it. Don't worry about how people will react. It's your home, and you need to be able to be yourself at home.
 
Well, a few things you can do:

If you are in charge of the shopping, just make sure the kinds of foods you want fed to the child are the ones that are in stock.

Put your daughter in daycare, where you have more say on what goes on with your daughter

Marriage counseling. This is obviously a make it or break it issue for your relationship and it would be good to address it now.
 
I do not think that inviting your MIL to stay with you was fair of your husband. You and your husband have your own family now. I don't know if you believe in God or the bible, but even in the bible it says that for the reason of marraige, a man will leave his father and mother and be united as one with his wife. His mother may have been his number one girl, but now you are. Therefore, I do not think that you are being irrational about your feelings at all. If you have already tried the nice approach, by expressing your feelings to them, maybe you need to get a little rough with them and lay down the law. Telling them both that you are the woman of this house, you make the decisions involving your child, and you expect your husband to support you, and you expect the MIL to accept it or get out. Hope that everything works out for, how frustrating that must be!
 
you should be happy you have someone to give you a hand with your kids.
understand the love of her life past away..

give her time, if she doesnt change her act after quiet sometime, tell her its time to move on, get her a place, do it with love and not as an obligation.
 
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