mother in law doesnt show intrest in my son??? advice or personal experience help?

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my son is 2 years old and my mother in law shows little to no intrest in him she lives 3 hours away but when she comes to area sees him for maybe an hour all up in the whole 8 days she never calls and only "acts" like a nan when other people are around i am 28 weeks pregnant with a little girl and she has shown no intrest in this pregnancy even though its high risk it upsets my hubby alot about how cold she is i dont know what to do i feel it is more me she doesnt like but it is shown through my son anyone else been through this very frustrating as i have no parents myself also have spoken to her about it but she becomes upset
 
My daughter is 7 and my MIL has never showed any interest in her either, she doesn't even recognize her as a granddaughter at all, me and my husband have talked about it several times and we have talked to her but no change, she just has always said that she knows she is being taken care of well so she doesn't have to worry about her, but I don't understand why that means she doesn't have to love her either. And she lives here in the same town 3 minutes away. We always have to go over to their house, they never come over here and she never calls to see or take our daughter, nothing!! It is very frustrating. I am lucky tho that we are very close to my family so she goes to her grandparents on my side all the time. I have no advice to give because we still have not found a soution either but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and I undertand your irritation.
 
You took the correct actions in talking to her, although your husband should also speak to her. My advice is to buy her a Christmas present for your son to give to her, write a note in the card if though your son have written it. In the note make it sound like your son is speaking to her. You should use the theme of something like this, "Merry Christmas grandma and I love you very much. Please spend some time with me, and call me because I am sad when you don't contact me"

There is one other advice i wish to give you. You mentioned you feel it is more you she doesn't like.. You should write her note not to put her dislike on her grandson and soon to be granddaughter.
Explain to her that your parents are gone and you would like a good relationship with her but if that is impossible than please don't alienate the grandson because he needs his grandma in his life. I am sorry that you are having this type of problems but most of all your kids have you. God bless.
 
You did not say how old your mother inlaw is but I would consider her age an depression in women since. Women tend to have many emotional problems this could be a posibility why she gets upset I noticed it with my mother in law whom we visit only once a year and then with my mom. Mother in law is probably not feeling well?
 
Mother in laws are evil - best thing to do is accept it and stop trying hard with her. Your kids will have 2 good parents - they dont need a grumpy mean nan.
 
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