My Ward happens to be small....really small. Not to mention it has some imbalance issues when it comes to certain stuff, namely young single adults. The young singles we have are either inactive or the age difference is too far apart. And the one person that isn't single happens to date someone who is not mormon. In turn, it has added to the stuff that put our Ward on probation.
Well in my Ward there is no one in whom is around my age (20). Other,bigger Wards happen to have a least a couple nice singles around my age but I'm afraid to attempt a relationship with them because it'd be a pretty long distance away. Only other time I meet other girls around me age is at a Single Adults event and those are usually 2 months apart. So with that it'd be really difficult to flirt with them, let alone ask them out. Even if you manage to the fact they live on the other side of the State makes it impossible to date. All this make me feel kind of stuck. And I'm gonna be 20 soon, I read that the church encourages marriage to happen in the young twenties and for me to not be anywhere near a chance at a relationship right now is a bit pressuring. I mean, not that I gotta get married anytime soon just want to have the option to date open to me, which seems very difficult to do in my current sitation. And I do not want to date a non mormon girl as the girls in my area do everything from smoke to drink alchohol, and the ones that dont just not my type anyway. Besides I find dating another mormon girl the safest way to go since it helps maintain the law of chasity, share the same beleifs so somethign to build on, and I plan on getting married in the temple one day. If I find a non mormon girl and I like her I wont mind dating her just my main priority is somone in my religion first.
What should I do, date outside my Ward or try something else ( we only have 3 sister missionaries in our Ward and converted girls are rare, the chances of them in my age are slim at least). And if so how should I go about it, considering the relationship would be far apart and we'd see eachother rarely, and likely unable to go out together. Just dating outside the ward would make the relationship seem like a long distance friendship rather than the average couple. If I wait for a convert....well then I would be prioritised to date her as I am the only young single active male adult in my Ward, and i wanna date somone as a choice not as a dutie.
Also has anyone had a similar situation? Has anyone been in a small Ward or had no sinle adults there age and was in there 20's? And if so what did you do?
Well in my Ward there is no one in whom is around my age (20). Other,bigger Wards happen to have a least a couple nice singles around my age but I'm afraid to attempt a relationship with them because it'd be a pretty long distance away. Only other time I meet other girls around me age is at a Single Adults event and those are usually 2 months apart. So with that it'd be really difficult to flirt with them, let alone ask them out. Even if you manage to the fact they live on the other side of the State makes it impossible to date. All this make me feel kind of stuck. And I'm gonna be 20 soon, I read that the church encourages marriage to happen in the young twenties and for me to not be anywhere near a chance at a relationship right now is a bit pressuring. I mean, not that I gotta get married anytime soon just want to have the option to date open to me, which seems very difficult to do in my current sitation. And I do not want to date a non mormon girl as the girls in my area do everything from smoke to drink alchohol, and the ones that dont just not my type anyway. Besides I find dating another mormon girl the safest way to go since it helps maintain the law of chasity, share the same beleifs so somethign to build on, and I plan on getting married in the temple one day. If I find a non mormon girl and I like her I wont mind dating her just my main priority is somone in my religion first.
What should I do, date outside my Ward or try something else ( we only have 3 sister missionaries in our Ward and converted girls are rare, the chances of them in my age are slim at least). And if so how should I go about it, considering the relationship would be far apart and we'd see eachother rarely, and likely unable to go out together. Just dating outside the ward would make the relationship seem like a long distance friendship rather than the average couple. If I wait for a convert....well then I would be prioritised to date her as I am the only young single active male adult in my Ward, and i wanna date somone as a choice not as a dutie.
Also has anyone had a similar situation? Has anyone been in a small Ward or had no sinle adults there age and was in there 20's? And if so what did you do?