So, my husband's father left my husband's mother when she was pregnant with him. She wound up having a nervous breakdown over it, and spent time in the psych ward (she's normal and stable as can be, now. Just under so much stress at the time). Well, the dad was in and out of their life, visiting when it was convenient for him. They got a little closer after my husband became an adult, but still not all that close. Needless to say, I think he's a complete piece of sh*t, who has contributed to nothing except for some issues my husband has over it. Anywho, he's been in poor health for a lot of years, and had major surgery recently, and his disability got denied. So, they (he and his trailer trash wife) have been asking us for money. He can't afford his medications, and their power is about to be turned off. We've given them probably $800 over the last few months. But the thing is, I resent giving him a nickel. My husband does it out of guilt, but anyway, my husband is deployed in Afghanistan now, and more or less told me to use my judgment about giving them any money. They have all kinds of stuff in their house (a tanning bed, for example) that they could sell, but don't, and I have advised them to apply for prescription assistance programs, but they don't. What would you do?? We are saving money for a house, and also undergoing fertility treatments, which aren't cheap. Would you give him money?? Thanks.
Very good suggestions, but I should have mentioned, I do live 1,000 miles away from them. I suppose in lieu of cooking for them, I could send a Walmart gift card. And I could print out the prescription assistance paperwork for them. They have spoken to several lawyers, and it's complicated, bc everything seems to be in order for him to get disability; he's had it before, and has all the doctor's letters that he is in fact disabled, etc., and nobody can seem to figure out why they stopped sending him his payments. I would feel bad if he died and we hadn't helped him, but we could send them all the money we have in savings, and it would just be a temporary band aid, and then we'd all be broke.
Very good suggestions, but I should have mentioned, I do live 1,000 miles away from them. I suppose in lieu of cooking for them, I could send a Walmart gift card. And I could print out the prescription assistance paperwork for them. They have spoken to several lawyers, and it's complicated, bc everything seems to be in order for him to get disability; he's had it before, and has all the doctor's letters that he is in fact disabled, etc., and nobody can seem to figure out why they stopped sending him his payments. I would feel bad if he died and we hadn't helped him, but we could send them all the money we have in savings, and it would just be a temporary band aid, and then we'd all be broke.