Military families: how do you deal with both parents deploying?

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My husband and I are both active duty Air Force, and are both facing deployments. He would be back for 2 months when I would be heading out the door. The kicker: our son will be turning 1 when the hubby leaves, and 18-20 months old when I leave. I'm worried about how hard it's going to be on our son, so I'm wondering how other families have handled this, and helped their children, (and each other) cope with the separation. If you've ever been in this situation, please help me out. Thanks in advance!
 
I suppose you were required to have a family care plan? Well, I know you are going to miss your baby quite a bit, and I sympathize with you. Try recording your and your husband's voices singing a song, like Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star or something like that and play it for the baby while the other parent is gone.

Try so you and your husband can contact each other everyday. Tell each other how the baby is doing, and have the home-front parent talk your baby about the military parent. Have whoever the home-front parent is take lots of pictures and make collages to send. I don't know if you can send videos to people overseas in the Air Force, but keep a videotape around with you so you can tape any first steps or laughs.

I know this is going to be very hard, so God be with you and your family!
 
LEAVE THE MILITARY YOUR KIDS NEED THEIR PARENTS! GET A JOB WHERE U WONT DIE, AND YOUR KIDS WILL SEE YOU
this is a selfish thing, you shouldn't have made babies if you planed in getting deployed
 
You deal with this by following the family care plan that you filed when the second one of you voluntereed. The plan that the military forces you to come up with while you are still in decision making mode, and not in the heat of the moment wen you get the news that both of you have to deploy.
 
I got out of the army. I don't mean to be rude or "judgemental" towards you. Children NEED their mothers. and they NEED their parents. When I found out I was pregnant I got out of the army. My husband is in Iraq right now,and if I would have stayed in, I would just be getting back from afghanistan. I think it is selfish, and I think it is bad for the children, I could not imagine being away from my son like that. It's not just that I would miss him, but he trusts me, and he knows I will always be there for him and protect them. By leaving him for a year, I am breaking his trust that is so crucial to his young development.

If I were you I would disband my family care plan, they will either keep you on rear D until you ETS, or chapter you. My sergeant and her husband were both deploying, his mother was their family care plan. They told the commander that she was too sick to take care of their son, they just put her on rear D. And if you're dual military you should know that just because your husband is back ,because he is active duty he doesn't count as family care plan.
 
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