Are all mother-in-laws hard to get along with?
My husband and I are pregnant with our first child. He told his mother the names we've chosen for either a boy or girl. She called me tonight and for about 30 minutes repeated that I will NOT be naming my daughter the name I've chosen, that I will be naming a girl after her. She said the baby has to have either her first or middle name - it's a "tradition" she said. She named her daughter after her own mother (same middle name) and convinced my SIL to name my niece after my MIL (again, same middle name). I was not born into the family - I do not see how this "tradition" would apply to me. If I was to go along with the tradition, my daughter would be named after my mother, correct? And if we are to have a boy, she said the name we chose is unacceptable, that the baby should be named Christopher Lance - the name she wanted to name my husband, but his father ended up choosing a different name. I don't like her name, and hate the name Christopher Lance.
On top of her trying to control the naming process, even with me being very stern that the baby will be named what I and my husband choose, my husband gives into his mother all the time and said "Well, we could change the baby's middle name (if it were a girl) to Ann or LeAnn after my mom." - I almost decked him just for saying that.
She also told him that she WILL be in the room when I deliver... I am modest and don't even want my own mother in the room because I'm not comfortable with a crowd staring at my goods (I guess that day they really won't look so good. lol)
So again, are all MIL's this difficult to deal with? We never have seen eye-to-eye on things since we met, but she seems especially difficult to me during my pregnancy. Maybe it's hormones? Or is she overstepping into my husband and my decisions? I tried to be very stern in telling her that these things are my choice, not hers, but she wouldn't lay off, and I am very stubborn and do not give in. Any ideas of how I can nicely reiterate the fact? I would hate to make our relationship worse by showing my frustration through not so nice conversation on the subject(s) at hand.
My husband and I are pregnant with our first child. He told his mother the names we've chosen for either a boy or girl. She called me tonight and for about 30 minutes repeated that I will NOT be naming my daughter the name I've chosen, that I will be naming a girl after her. She said the baby has to have either her first or middle name - it's a "tradition" she said. She named her daughter after her own mother (same middle name) and convinced my SIL to name my niece after my MIL (again, same middle name). I was not born into the family - I do not see how this "tradition" would apply to me. If I was to go along with the tradition, my daughter would be named after my mother, correct? And if we are to have a boy, she said the name we chose is unacceptable, that the baby should be named Christopher Lance - the name she wanted to name my husband, but his father ended up choosing a different name. I don't like her name, and hate the name Christopher Lance.
On top of her trying to control the naming process, even with me being very stern that the baby will be named what I and my husband choose, my husband gives into his mother all the time and said "Well, we could change the baby's middle name (if it were a girl) to Ann or LeAnn after my mom." - I almost decked him just for saying that.
She also told him that she WILL be in the room when I deliver... I am modest and don't even want my own mother in the room because I'm not comfortable with a crowd staring at my goods (I guess that day they really won't look so good. lol)
So again, are all MIL's this difficult to deal with? We never have seen eye-to-eye on things since we met, but she seems especially difficult to me during my pregnancy. Maybe it's hormones? Or is she overstepping into my husband and my decisions? I tried to be very stern in telling her that these things are my choice, not hers, but she wouldn't lay off, and I am very stubborn and do not give in. Any ideas of how I can nicely reiterate the fact? I would hate to make our relationship worse by showing my frustration through not so nice conversation on the subject(s) at hand.