me & my husband havent had sex in 9 months...help?

[bella]

I need advice.I have been married 3 1/2 years.but together for 7 years..We have a 3 year old child.Me & MY husband havent had sex in 9 months.I am 35 he is 40.I dont know if this is a normal bump in the road in the marriage.Or if we are just not meant to be.A year ago he cheated on me.He made out with a 21 year old cocktail waitress.He swore they never had sex.I decided not to leave him,and try to work through it.A few days after I found out about the girl,I decided I better try harder with our sex life.So that night,I put the moves on him and he said no,he was tired.So I tried again another night.he again rejecteed me.He begs for us to stop arguing and mend our marriage but he wont have sex.Now I am not even into it and its awkward caus its been so long.o a week ago i ried again he said he was too cold( we were at the drive inn I have a van with tinted windows I was tryin to light the fire and be wild with him.He also has lied to me a coupke times stupid things that involve girls.I love him,but I am in my prime! I dont wanna be in a marriage with no intamacy! Do I try to work it out or just move on.He never tells me I am beautiful or sexy,yet he wants to stay together! He has been struggling with lay offs in the past.he finally has a job,but I am so unhappy.How much more can I take from a loveless marriage for 9 months now! i WANT AND DESERVE TO BE LOVED.i WORK HARD AND TAKE CARE OF OUR SON.i FEEL THAT THE BALL IIS IN HIS COURT NOW AS FAR AS INITIATING SEX.WHAT DO I DO!