(I'm going to try an cover key points to make this brief)
Ok well me and a friend of mine, Bob, had a bit of an argument a month or two ago and haven't spoken since.
Basically me and Bob were good friends, or so i thought, but he always had a really bad habit of putting me down and picking out every little flaw. at first I thought it was just his sense of humor, but then i started to get agitated when other members of our group of friends would get recognition for being good at something etc. that was pretty annoying, but it got to the point where he would barely address me and instead would rather talk to other people. Then two months ago i sent out a message to Bob and another friend Robert telling them that the two of them are my best friends and they're awesome blah blah blah, (what was i thinking.) Roberts response to this was along the lines of "thanks, we'll talk about this later" and for one reason or another, mostly my fault, it devolved into a stupid argument over stuff i can't remember (it was really pointless in hindsight), but in that message i mentioned how the constant put-downs were really bothering me and i needed them to stop, then Bob came in and says "we need to talk about this, there's some weirdness going on and i don't like it."
the next day, Bob tells me he read the message and the argument and said it was "interesting" which upset me right off the bat, then he came out of left field and said that the way that I look at him makes him uncomfortable and he and Robert together told me that i was being clingy.
i talk to robert now, but i haven't really spoken to bob since then, because the situation has devolved into me not wanting to look at him, watch what i say around him, and all around limit my interaction with him.
I've asked robert for advice on the situation (he doesn't know about the whole making Bob uncomfortable part though) and he basically said that any attempt to say im sorry or salvage the situation would come across as clingy, and that i just shouldnt do it. He told me to just try and be friendly with him, but its really difficult because i once considered this guy to be one of my best friends, but it turns out he just thought i was clingy, annoying, and uncomfortable to be around.
I don't get it because i've done nothing but be myself, and I haven't spoken to him in months as stated, and i miss the friendship, but im afraid its never going to go back to normal because he would still rather talk to people other than me, and when he does associate with me i just get really quiet and upset and dont know what to do.
I've tried talking to Bob about it, against roberts wishes, but he was really cold about it and he doesn't seem to care at all.
I've accepted the blame for the situation and agreed that i was clingy, although the uncomfortable part idk what to think. but i know he'll never even want to talk about it.
He's tried to be nice to me recently, but im just not receptive to it and just feel bad.
my friendship is basically dead, what do i do?
Ok well me and a friend of mine, Bob, had a bit of an argument a month or two ago and haven't spoken since.
Basically me and Bob were good friends, or so i thought, but he always had a really bad habit of putting me down and picking out every little flaw. at first I thought it was just his sense of humor, but then i started to get agitated when other members of our group of friends would get recognition for being good at something etc. that was pretty annoying, but it got to the point where he would barely address me and instead would rather talk to other people. Then two months ago i sent out a message to Bob and another friend Robert telling them that the two of them are my best friends and they're awesome blah blah blah, (what was i thinking.) Roberts response to this was along the lines of "thanks, we'll talk about this later" and for one reason or another, mostly my fault, it devolved into a stupid argument over stuff i can't remember (it was really pointless in hindsight), but in that message i mentioned how the constant put-downs were really bothering me and i needed them to stop, then Bob came in and says "we need to talk about this, there's some weirdness going on and i don't like it."
the next day, Bob tells me he read the message and the argument and said it was "interesting" which upset me right off the bat, then he came out of left field and said that the way that I look at him makes him uncomfortable and he and Robert together told me that i was being clingy.
i talk to robert now, but i haven't really spoken to bob since then, because the situation has devolved into me not wanting to look at him, watch what i say around him, and all around limit my interaction with him.
I've asked robert for advice on the situation (he doesn't know about the whole making Bob uncomfortable part though) and he basically said that any attempt to say im sorry or salvage the situation would come across as clingy, and that i just shouldnt do it. He told me to just try and be friendly with him, but its really difficult because i once considered this guy to be one of my best friends, but it turns out he just thought i was clingy, annoying, and uncomfortable to be around.
I don't get it because i've done nothing but be myself, and I haven't spoken to him in months as stated, and i miss the friendship, but im afraid its never going to go back to normal because he would still rather talk to people other than me, and when he does associate with me i just get really quiet and upset and dont know what to do.
I've tried talking to Bob about it, against roberts wishes, but he was really cold about it and he doesn't seem to care at all.
I've accepted the blame for the situation and agreed that i was clingy, although the uncomfortable part idk what to think. but i know he'll never even want to talk about it.
He's tried to be nice to me recently, but im just not receptive to it and just feel bad.
my friendship is basically dead, what do i do?