Before I begin, I want to say that I do love my husband. He is a doctor and a good man. He has medical school debt and then took on my debt once we were married. My debt was not a surprise to him. He was aware. I have a Lexus SUV and he just leased a car and pays over $1000 a month. I did spend a lot earlier in our marriage. I would spend over $1000 a month on nonsense. We came to an agreement. I withdraw $100 a week from our account and do not spend anything else. I have a budget and he knows exactly what we will have each month. I do not deviate from the $100. I only spend $100 a week and that includes most of the stuff for our baby. I've been going strong for over a month on only spending $100 and he makes a joke out of it and still yells at me about money. It's like... I can't win. And if we are in so much debt, why would he lease a car for over $1000 a month? The hospital is 2 miles away and we do not need two luxury cars. It seems like I get blamed for everything. We came up with a plan and I'm sticking to it. It's like he wanted me to fail. It was easy to blame me for overspending, but now that I'm being conservative.... he's still not happy. He still blames me for all of our debt. Does anyone have any advice?
I could get a job teaching, but I wouldn't bring in much additional money. I live in Hawaii and daycare is expensive. It wouldn't make sense right now. I would pay someone 2/3 of my salary to watch my baby so I can teach 30 kids that are not my own.
I do love him and I don't think money is the problem. I'm on a great plan and he's still not happy with me. I would teach again, but we are back in Hawaii and my license just expired. I can sub, but 75% of that money will go to the babysitter. The trade-off isn't worth it. I'll be happy going back to work once the baby starts school or preschool. I could even work at her school.
I could get a job teaching, but I wouldn't bring in much additional money. I live in Hawaii and daycare is expensive. It wouldn't make sense right now. I would pay someone 2/3 of my salary to watch my baby so I can teach 30 kids that are not my own.
I do love him and I don't think money is the problem. I'm on a great plan and he's still not happy with me. I would teach again, but we are back in Hawaii and my license just expired. I can sub, but 75% of that money will go to the babysitter. The trade-off isn't worth it. I'll be happy going back to work once the baby starts school or preschool. I could even work at her school.