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love really suckz
i know you don't care or whatever but if you don't care then don't read this damn thread that would be the simple option!

anyhow as i was...

well i really liked this guy and latley i've gotten really close with him, just as friend's like but i like him A LOT more than friends. but anyhow, he tell's me everything and i literally (sp?) mean EVERYTHING, and like to all my friend's im the person they can go to with a problem.

but anyhow i was talking to him and he was really down and he told me why and it was because he totally loved my best friend like ACTUALLY he loved her. and he was crying and everything. this mad me so upset because i loved him the way he loved my best friend!!

he was saying how she was everything he ever wanted. That made me REALLY upset.

and now im really pissed off because he's all i can think about but i can't tell him i like him lik that :( and he's really mad because i wont tell him what's wrong URGH life really does suck!!!
 
bah just tell him. he asked, so you tell. simple as that. especially if you want to be with this guy, why start keeping things from him now? just keep things from him when he's giving you money and such :thumbsup:
 
i did that with my best female friend, went out with her. she then broke up with me and i got drunk and (apparantly) said some really shitty things to her on new years eve. Deep wounds take time to mend and this one of mine is so fucking deep.

if you want to risk friendship, then maybe go for it. If you want to keep him as a life long friend then you'll support him in his choices. Hey but the decision is obviously up to you.
 
Yeah that kinda sucks. But like quitii said tell him. It might make him think about you alittle and turn out that he does like you more than just friends.
 
if you truly loved him, you'd want him to be happy no matter what, even if it isn't with you. it'd hurt, but you'd still be happy for him.

otherwise it's infatuation. tell him how you feel, if he doesn't reciprocate try to help him.
 
if u really liked him, u prolly should have tried to be more of a girlfriend to him then a friend, because eventually theyll saa "going out is too weird, i mean we're such good friends" ive gotten fucked over by that once
 
i know yeah.
but i have tryed to be happy for him it's just like everyday he come's and complains how his life is so unfair and all that when im sitting they're trying to make him feel better while knowing just how he feel's.
Yesterday he went off his head at me because he was really upset and i told him i would help him through it because i know exactly how he feel's and he was like "NO U FCUKING DON'T, YOU'VE NEVER BEEN IN THIS SITUATION U COULD NEVER KNOW!!!"
i don't want to tell him incase it ruins are relationship that we already have, although i don't want him to be mad at me for trying to help!
it's as though i can't win even if i suffer my happiness to make him happy. urgh i just don't know what to do.
lifes such a b**** at the mo!
 
Hayleigh, it sounds like you're both too immature for each other. I don't mean this to be mean or degrading, I'm just saying. You're both still wrapped up in your own worlds and no one else could possibly understand for feel the way you do. You need to spend some time for yourself thinking about your feelings and if you really do love him, and it's not just infatuation. If it's just infatuation, this tormenting yourself isn't worth it. No man or woman is. Take care of yourself first. You can't help others when you have issues yourself. I've learned this because I've been in the same situation. My first boyfriend was my best friend. We both put our friendship on the line for what we believed to be love. We lasted for a year and a half and then were off and on for another three years. When it was over it got really ugly, and our friendship was ruined, but I have learned that what we felt was not really love, and the torment I was putting myself through for him was pointless. In the end who is it hurting for you to keep holding on to these feelings and watching him go after another girl? Only you. You can't do that to yourself, it'll cause even deeper problems than you realize. Of course, you can only learn through experience really, so if you're intent on getting this guy, the only way is to tell him how you feel, as stated in another post. You can't solve things by bottling up. What's the worst that can happen? If he rejects you flat out then you can start to heal, as opposed to just sitting there mulling over your feelings for him and wondering if he'll ever see you as more than a friend. He won't see you if you don't show yourself.
 
Oh like I said, I wasn't aiming to piss you off. I just mentioned it, in case my comment was redundant.

I have no attention span.

But you're right, I don't need that advice, I need the how do you get your ex out of your head advice.
 
that just makes things worse, best thing for forgetting an ex is to get someone else to sit on your face and do a cheeky little bouncy dance there, after about 6 months of that you're cured :thumbsup:
 
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