I wont get into a long discussion coz it is a VERY long story. But basically me and my BF have lost trust. I really thought he was afraid that he was cheating or was close to it because he lied to me about of of his female friends and told me they never had a relationship then I found out they used to have a relationship (i looked at his phone when he was visiting), then after months he brought up that he wanted her and him to be roommates and then I told him that I knew abt their past relationship and did not feel comfortable abt the idea and abt them hanging out.
Well it is a long story but basically we are now in this situation when he is mad at me for looking through his phone and for looking at what is going on on his Facebook, and for making it to a point when I would say that i would not like him to hang out with a female friend IF i know she likes him. I do not trust him coz he lied to me in a first place which triggered me to look through his phone and look at his FB more than I ever would and do all the things i mentioned above. Him wanting to be roommates with her made everything even worse.
Today he wanted to hang out with her and I said i would lot like it and that it would hurt me. IT all ended up badly and I asked him to give that girl my number and i talked to her and actually got a piece of mind but now he is very bitter and mad at me.
WE HAVE NEVER been that way before but ever since I moved to another state for school our relationship was tense. I am 26 and he is 30 and I love him to death and I so do not want to loose him. I know I am not perfect and I am not trying to justify my actions he too has messed up and as of right now it looks like we are doing nothing but pushing each other away and getting so close to a break up that I am afraid to even think about it. I do not want to loose him. I love him very much. When I think about what has been happening I really get so lost and confused to see who I have become all of a sudden and how our relationship have changed. Can somebody help me please and may be someone has been in a situation when you have lost trust in LDR and how you got it back? What are some actual steps that I can take and my BF can take to have our trust back? Coz of course words are good but sometimes are not enough. PLEASE HELP!
Well it is a long story but basically we are now in this situation when he is mad at me for looking through his phone and for looking at what is going on on his Facebook, and for making it to a point when I would say that i would not like him to hang out with a female friend IF i know she likes him. I do not trust him coz he lied to me in a first place which triggered me to look through his phone and look at his FB more than I ever would and do all the things i mentioned above. Him wanting to be roommates with her made everything even worse.
Today he wanted to hang out with her and I said i would lot like it and that it would hurt me. IT all ended up badly and I asked him to give that girl my number and i talked to her and actually got a piece of mind but now he is very bitter and mad at me.
WE HAVE NEVER been that way before but ever since I moved to another state for school our relationship was tense. I am 26 and he is 30 and I love him to death and I so do not want to loose him. I know I am not perfect and I am not trying to justify my actions he too has messed up and as of right now it looks like we are doing nothing but pushing each other away and getting so close to a break up that I am afraid to even think about it. I do not want to loose him. I love him very much. When I think about what has been happening I really get so lost and confused to see who I have become all of a sudden and how our relationship have changed. Can somebody help me please and may be someone has been in a situation when you have lost trust in LDR and how you got it back? What are some actual steps that I can take and my BF can take to have our trust back? Coz of course words are good but sometimes are not enough. PLEASE HELP!