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I would appreciate any advice I can get on this.I have been sober almost 5yrs,I put my family through alot in my addiction.They helped raise 2 of my 3 boys.My mom is the daughter of an alcoholic and she has some mental health issues going on too,she and I fought alot when I was young,I left home when I was 14,got heavy into drugs,married an alcoholic,so on and so on.I made my amenRAB to my family when I got sober,and I was back in the family again.I did realize nothing had changed,but I thought it didn't matter I had my sobriety and all that,fast forward,my dad died two years ago,mom was very co-dependant with him,and she wants to die too.I tried to support my mom through her grief,but she is stuck in it and everything is negative and all our conversations are about her and her stuff,anyway I've known for some time I needed to set boundries,I did'nt know how and I was afraid,Itried bringing it up a few times and she got offended and did some things that took me back to my childhood.Recently I said some things about our relationship needed to change and she said my problem wasn't her it was my boyfriend,and just alot of hurtful stuff,so we have not talked in several days.She used to call me every day 4or5 times a day,so I feel loike I have been shunned again,and the sad part is I'm worried I didn't handle it in a calmer way,all that guilt and crap still there like 35 years ago.I am going to meetings and talking to my sponsor,I talked to my daughter-in law while ago,she saw them yesterday and she said she was ok,but I felt like she didn't have alot to say and my crazy mind was well they will be against me too.sick,sick,sick,and I know it ,please anybody give me some feedback:dizzy: