Losing a close friend

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Friendships change over time, and sometimes we grow beyond another person. It can be painful.
 
Yep. I've lost my best friend within the last couple of weeks.
She's been through a lot of stuff lately and I've been with her through it ALL. And now she's acting like I don't exist, and is hanging out with this girl who tells about a million lies per day. I'm waiting for her to see sense about this girl and then I bet she will come running back to me, apologising and that. But I've been through this before and I'm not going to be a pushover this time and just forgive her straight away.
 
:hug: I get over friendships by making new ones but the old friendship will always be in the back of my mind.
 
It may take more than one conversation to settle matters with her, but I hope that you can work things out. :hug:

Let us know how it goes.
 
You're right. I will wait alittle longer and if I see them again in person i wiill ask to talk private with each other.
 
Give her some time to breathe, and give yourself some time to breathe. It might be a silly little thing to you, but to her it might have been something huge.
 
Wow, that is a long time to hold a grudge. You can try talking to her again, but if she wants to be like that, then maybe it's not worth it. I would not want to be friends with someone who was going to hold a grudge over something silly.
 
Thank you all for the advice :hug: Im going to try again to get alone with them face to face and talk it out. I tried a few days ago saying hello and they mumbled a hi and walked away. Its hard knowing we use to be close and talk all the time and now its all awkward. I guess some people hold grudges alot longer then others. I only last a day or two, depending on how serious the fight was and I forgive. Life is too short to be angry for someone you care about. Or at least thats how I look at it. Not sure how they do.
 
Losing a friend, one that you had been close to for years, can be so hard, especially over an argument.

I sincerely hope you are able to eventually get back to being friends. :hug:
 
:hug: It's hard to have a rift like that in a friendship, and it's harder still when family members are involved.

The thing to do is to decide whether you want to salvage the firendship and repair the situation. Since you miss your friend and since you feel badly about what happened, maybe it's time to try to re-open communications--that means listening more than talking, and it may mean that you might hear some things you don't want to know. But if you can find it in yourself to forgive your friend and yourself for the problems that have come between you, then the friendship doesn't necessarily have to end.

(We do have a friendship thread around here somewhere...not sure where it is a the moment, though.)
 
I'm sorry to hear you lost your friend :hug: but if you say it was over a silly argument, are you sure you can't talk to your friend to try to fix things up between you two? maybe your friend thinks the same way you do right now. :)
 
I wasnt sure if this board or the communities was good to make this topic at or not. Or even if there has been a thread like this before made. I wanted to start a topic to discussion with anyone who has ever lost a close friend or even friends in their lives that still hurts you to this day and how do you cope with it? Rather its you both grew apart, or they moved away, or maybe had a silly fight that caused the whole friendship to end?


I just recently lost a close friend a few months ago over a silly agruement and we havent been talking for the past four months. Its hard because we would talk everyday and always had fun around each other. They also are friends with my brother and sister too so its hard to still see them around and they still hold a grudge over me and ignore whenever I am present around them. Has anyone else gone thru something similar?
 
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