Over the summer a dated my ex. We got along great and had a good time together. I was always a great guy to her and did everything a boyfriend should do. (The random rose, cooked dinner, goodnight text messages, sex was great, opened doors, gave her plenty of space, the whole nine yards) Several weeks before she had to return to school she acted distant and started making excuses not to have sex. It bothered me, but I didn't show it. Just a few days before she had to go back to school she told me she wanted to be friends and that she didn't think it would work due to our conflicting schedules. (hence she's only 100 miles away) I told her I would try and work things out..then she proceeded to tell me that she thought I was too nice and that she never developed feelings for me. I was hurt but acted like I didn't really care. The night before she left she started crying and informed me she wanted thing to work and that she was going to miss me. She wanted to wait a couple of weeks just to make sure her schedule wasn't going to conflict with mine. I was fine with it even though my dignity was telling me not to give in.
We continued to speak everyday for two weeks. She came back for labor day and we hung out every night and had a good time. Before she returned to school I asked if I could visit her the following week. She gave me the homework excuse. She told me If I didn't work on weekends things would be "different". By now, I was frustrated but didn't show it. A few days later my frustrations built up and I took it out on her over the phone. The fact that she was never emotionally/affectionately close in anyway and she was 100 miles away and indecisive REALLY started to bug me. She understood me frustrations and admitted that she was really confused. We both agreed that our relationship needed more time. A few days later I was offered a new shift at my occupation with weekends off,. I was so excited and I sent her a message immediately. She seemed happy but it soon changed. Just a couple of days later she became very distant and moody. The text messages were short and to the point and the phone conversations were quiet. I asked her what was bothering her and she said school was stressing her out. About a week later she called me to inform me that it was over yet again. By now, I was livid. I gave her an ear full the first few minutes of the conversation but I soon calmed down. She told me that I was right and the relationship wasn't equal. She told me she had her "issues" that she needed to figure out and needed to stay single. Part of me understood, but I was also very disappointed also said, "You gave me two weeks, I thought my feeling would change, but they haven't." By now I was so angry I was speechless. She lied about waiting two weeks. She got aggravated with me because I wasn't saying anything and eventually said goodnight and hung up on me. I felt like such a fool and it angered me.
I didn't hear from her for a couple of months nor did I want to. In mid November she went me a message on facebook and asked me how my Halloween was. I laughed and didn't respond..why should I? Late December she sent me a text and told she she was back in town and remembering all of the good times we had. I didn't respond. Her friend sent me two messages within a couple of weeks on facebook asking me how I was doing. I never responded to her. I didn't hear anything for almost a month. A couple of weeks ago my friend out of the blue told me that I should get back with her and was serious. I shot him down and told him why I shouldn't..he replied.."yeah..may not be a good idea." He decided to tell me last week that he received a message from her a week ago..that was around the time he told me to get back with her. He told me she was asking some general questions about me because I haven't been responsive. I found it fishy that he told me a week after she sent it. A few nights ago I received a message from her staing she was sorry for the way things happened this summer and she was sorry for hurting me. SHe told me I could keep ignoring her..but she just wanted to tell me that. I still haven't responded to her. I'm debating on whether or not it's worth it.
At this point..what does she seem to want? Does she want me back..or does she just want to go down on good terms? My dignity is telling me not to give in to her..but deep down I still care for her..what should I do?
We continued to speak everyday for two weeks. She came back for labor day and we hung out every night and had a good time. Before she returned to school I asked if I could visit her the following week. She gave me the homework excuse. She told me If I didn't work on weekends things would be "different". By now, I was frustrated but didn't show it. A few days later my frustrations built up and I took it out on her over the phone. The fact that she was never emotionally/affectionately close in anyway and she was 100 miles away and indecisive REALLY started to bug me. She understood me frustrations and admitted that she was really confused. We both agreed that our relationship needed more time. A few days later I was offered a new shift at my occupation with weekends off,. I was so excited and I sent her a message immediately. She seemed happy but it soon changed. Just a couple of days later she became very distant and moody. The text messages were short and to the point and the phone conversations were quiet. I asked her what was bothering her and she said school was stressing her out. About a week later she called me to inform me that it was over yet again. By now, I was livid. I gave her an ear full the first few minutes of the conversation but I soon calmed down. She told me that I was right and the relationship wasn't equal. She told me she had her "issues" that she needed to figure out and needed to stay single. Part of me understood, but I was also very disappointed also said, "You gave me two weeks, I thought my feeling would change, but they haven't." By now I was so angry I was speechless. She lied about waiting two weeks. She got aggravated with me because I wasn't saying anything and eventually said goodnight and hung up on me. I felt like such a fool and it angered me.
I didn't hear from her for a couple of months nor did I want to. In mid November she went me a message on facebook and asked me how my Halloween was. I laughed and didn't respond..why should I? Late December she sent me a text and told she she was back in town and remembering all of the good times we had. I didn't respond. Her friend sent me two messages within a couple of weeks on facebook asking me how I was doing. I never responded to her. I didn't hear anything for almost a month. A couple of weeks ago my friend out of the blue told me that I should get back with her and was serious. I shot him down and told him why I shouldn't..he replied.."yeah..may not be a good idea." He decided to tell me last week that he received a message from her a week ago..that was around the time he told me to get back with her. He told me she was asking some general questions about me because I haven't been responsive. I found it fishy that he told me a week after she sent it. A few nights ago I received a message from her staing she was sorry for the way things happened this summer and she was sorry for hurting me. SHe told me I could keep ignoring her..but she just wanted to tell me that. I still haven't responded to her. I'm debating on whether or not it's worth it.
At this point..what does she seem to want? Does she want me back..or does she just want to go down on good terms? My dignity is telling me not to give in to her..but deep down I still care for her..what should I do?