Life threatening obesity - need advice

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Ricky P

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A family member, female--mid 40's, is morbidly obese--over 550 lbs. not sure how close that guess is--but probably it is a low guess!

She's on disability and due to intense pain in her knees from a serious fall 3 years ago, can barely get from chair to bed to bathroom.

Her legs swell badly, she has COPD (smokes and has tried to quit but failed) and has adult onset diabetes and high b/p and now sleep apnea!

She's had short term counciling and a couple of years ago lost 'alot' of weight on the liquid diet---only to put it all back on and more! She's almost 'given up' and is on disability now. Does anyone have any advise for us as family and for her to help? Is there a facility/nursing home, or rehab place in MO. where they treat morbid obesity and accept folks on disability?
The stress of financial problems due to her husband having lost his job over a year ago, and their home in jeopardy, etc. has made it even worse for her.

We as a family have helped out all we can but with this, we don't know what to do next. Any suggestions would be appreciated. thanks.
 
Sorry, Yanksgirl, but suggestion are irrelevant here. Th reason? The person who needs
the help just doesn't care, and all those problems you mention above are standard obesity problems. People who say "I cannot quit smoking, or I cannot lose weight" are creatures of habit, and ready to suffer and die for. Suggestions won't make any difference, because they live on the pleasure of eating and smoking, and usually blame people who make suggestions otherwise as "non-understanding, and/or non supportive." It is called "denial!" And after having taught sociology for 20 years in a college, I believe that denial is "incurable," period!
 
The only place I know of is the Brookhaven Obesity Clinic in New York. I don't know if it would be possible for your family member to get there or be accepted as a patient, but it try giving them a call. If nothing else maybe someone on the staff can recommend a dr or clinic to you that could offer you some help.
But nothing is going to help if she is not willing to change, hopefully she will find it within herself to better herself.
Good luck.
 
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