Lack of 'intimacy' = me feeling frustrated and angry?

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Tia

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Me and my....friend with benefits who I practically live with are going through a seemingly endless drought. It's probably been about 5 or 6 weeks. He seems to want it when he wants it, which is few and far between. I'm thinking of asking him whether he took a vow of chastity as his new Year's resolution without telling me, or is this slightly too harsh? I'm in my late 20's, he's 10 years older, and over time the 'action' has become less and less...starting to feel really resentful and angry. How do I broach the subject?

I take care of myself, make an effort with my appearance. We used to sleep together a few times a week in the early days. I always make an effort to please him and he was the same initially, not so much anymore. He had been complaining of a pain in his testicles, but hasn't bothered to have it checked out and hasn't mentioned it in weeks. I know this isn't the right section, but the best advice comes from here.
 
I wouldn't broach the subject in quite that way, you need to ask him, straight out, if he's still interested in continuing with your arrangement, or if it has run its course for him. I can assure you that the problem is not with you, some people just aren't the committed type, and with these types of arrangements, it always eventually burns out if one is more committed to the other. Just remember that no matter the outcome, walk away with your head held high, and know that it is his loss, and if this 'intimacy' is becoming less frequent, and less pleasurable than it used to be, then that is a sure sign something has changed, not with you, but with the situation or the arrangement.

Goodluck
Jess :)
 
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