a little backstory:
me and my girlfriend(now ex) are both 24, and we met when we were 21.she was actually working at an ice cream shop while attending uni, and i'd always walk by and see her and we'd always make eye contact and smile at each other. thought she was the cutest girl i'd ever seen in my life. 5'2, brunette, shy......one day i manned up, went inside, talked, got #, and then we started dating.
we were official for about 4 months, and i met her parents for the first time. she invited me over to dinner, and i tried my best to look good that night. asked her what her dad liked, etc., and was ready for anything. Was so nervous. so i got there, and right off the bat i get the feeling that their parents didn't like me, like they didnt care i was there or not. not gonna go into detail, but my gf felt the tension and she excused us early and we left. i asked her if her parents liked me, and she said they did, they just needed time to warm up to me. i thought, what the hell, maybe with time they'll get to know me better and get to like me. from then on i probably got invited over to meet my gf's parents about 10 times, and EVERY time would be the same. theyd be disinterested and cold towards me, to the point where they told my gf to not invite me over anymore. my gf insisted I go, and for a while didn't attend any events, but I told her no because it made her parents hate me even more.
so for the next 3 years, i was never invited to any family events(they have a extended family get together every month,+family dinner with close cousins every week), weddings, holidays(christmas, easter etc), or vacations. i wasnt really hurt by any of this. my family was never really close, and we never had family events or celebrated holidays much so it wasn't anything new to me. it hurt at first how i wasnt getting invited despite the fact i was their daughters gf, but after a while i just didnt care anymore.
so after 1.5 years we moved in together. she got a well paying job and rented an apartment for us(we split the bills, but lease was under her name). my family+a lot of my friends moved halfway across the country, and she was pretty much my only friend. same thing, every christmas, easter, thanksgiving, she'd be away all day, but always promised to make it up to me later i just stayed home and messed around since no businesses are open on those holidays.
this happened for another 1.5 years. recently however, her parents made some new friends, and they have a son around our age. her parents love the kid. every weekly dinner and family gathering, he'd be invited along with his parents, and he got really friendly with my girl. my gf's parents LOVED this kid....he got real friendly with my girl, and her parents and his parents would always go out during the week and they'd invite her and the kid so my gf was pretty much spending more time with him than me every week.
she'd come home at the end of the day and start talking how they went here and there, and how her parents and his parents are so friendly and whatnot. id just sit and listen.
after about 2 months of this, it was getting painfully obvious she was starting to develop feelings for the guy. i dont blame her though. she was hanging out with him like 2-4 times a week, and her parents loved the guy. i talked to her twice about it, and she got defensive and said he was just a family friend, nothing more...Never brought it up again, not going into detail on that either...
so anyways, today they had a huge family gathering at my gfs parents home. relatives, friends, like 100 people at their house. of course, i wsnt invited, but it had become the norm that my gf would just say "im gonna go now, stay up so we can hang out when i get back." she'd always leave the events early and we'd go out or watch a movie when she got back, but since the guy came into their lives, id just go to sleep because she wasn't gonna be back till late. as soon as she left, i called my best mate, he came over. we packed my stuff up, loaded it into his truck. and he drove the stuff to his house where i'd be staying until i find a place for myself. i waited for her to come back. didnt want to break up with her befor so she could enjoy the nite. she got back, and i told her it wasnt going to work. she did the whole crying thing, and we just sat there for 30 minutes(seemed like eternity though). i finally got up, told her shes a free girl now that she could do whatever she wanted and i wouldnt hold it against her. told her good luck, kissed her on the forehead, and walked out.
Ive left out a lot of details, but communication wasn't a problem. It just wasn't going to work out. No regrets though. Looking forward to single life.
now im no loser. im advancing quickly in my career, and make good money, however this wasnt enough for her parents. id like to one day know why they never liked me, bu
me and my girlfriend(now ex) are both 24, and we met when we were 21.she was actually working at an ice cream shop while attending uni, and i'd always walk by and see her and we'd always make eye contact and smile at each other. thought she was the cutest girl i'd ever seen in my life. 5'2, brunette, shy......one day i manned up, went inside, talked, got #, and then we started dating.
we were official for about 4 months, and i met her parents for the first time. she invited me over to dinner, and i tried my best to look good that night. asked her what her dad liked, etc., and was ready for anything. Was so nervous. so i got there, and right off the bat i get the feeling that their parents didn't like me, like they didnt care i was there or not. not gonna go into detail, but my gf felt the tension and she excused us early and we left. i asked her if her parents liked me, and she said they did, they just needed time to warm up to me. i thought, what the hell, maybe with time they'll get to know me better and get to like me. from then on i probably got invited over to meet my gf's parents about 10 times, and EVERY time would be the same. theyd be disinterested and cold towards me, to the point where they told my gf to not invite me over anymore. my gf insisted I go, and for a while didn't attend any events, but I told her no because it made her parents hate me even more.
so for the next 3 years, i was never invited to any family events(they have a extended family get together every month,+family dinner with close cousins every week), weddings, holidays(christmas, easter etc), or vacations. i wasnt really hurt by any of this. my family was never really close, and we never had family events or celebrated holidays much so it wasn't anything new to me. it hurt at first how i wasnt getting invited despite the fact i was their daughters gf, but after a while i just didnt care anymore.
so after 1.5 years we moved in together. she got a well paying job and rented an apartment for us(we split the bills, but lease was under her name). my family+a lot of my friends moved halfway across the country, and she was pretty much my only friend. same thing, every christmas, easter, thanksgiving, she'd be away all day, but always promised to make it up to me later i just stayed home and messed around since no businesses are open on those holidays.
this happened for another 1.5 years. recently however, her parents made some new friends, and they have a son around our age. her parents love the kid. every weekly dinner and family gathering, he'd be invited along with his parents, and he got really friendly with my girl. my gf's parents LOVED this kid....he got real friendly with my girl, and her parents and his parents would always go out during the week and they'd invite her and the kid so my gf was pretty much spending more time with him than me every week.
she'd come home at the end of the day and start talking how they went here and there, and how her parents and his parents are so friendly and whatnot. id just sit and listen.
after about 2 months of this, it was getting painfully obvious she was starting to develop feelings for the guy. i dont blame her though. she was hanging out with him like 2-4 times a week, and her parents loved the guy. i talked to her twice about it, and she got defensive and said he was just a family friend, nothing more...Never brought it up again, not going into detail on that either...
so anyways, today they had a huge family gathering at my gfs parents home. relatives, friends, like 100 people at their house. of course, i wsnt invited, but it had become the norm that my gf would just say "im gonna go now, stay up so we can hang out when i get back." she'd always leave the events early and we'd go out or watch a movie when she got back, but since the guy came into their lives, id just go to sleep because she wasn't gonna be back till late. as soon as she left, i called my best mate, he came over. we packed my stuff up, loaded it into his truck. and he drove the stuff to his house where i'd be staying until i find a place for myself. i waited for her to come back. didnt want to break up with her befor so she could enjoy the nite. she got back, and i told her it wasnt going to work. she did the whole crying thing, and we just sat there for 30 minutes(seemed like eternity though). i finally got up, told her shes a free girl now that she could do whatever she wanted and i wouldnt hold it against her. told her good luck, kissed her on the forehead, and walked out.
Ive left out a lot of details, but communication wasn't a problem. It just wasn't going to work out. No regrets though. Looking forward to single life.
now im no loser. im advancing quickly in my career, and make good money, however this wasnt enough for her parents. id like to one day know why they never liked me, bu