Judging your partner & how to STOP?!?

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samurai girl

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Did you learn something(s) about your partner before you got engaged that slightly altered your opinion of them - even if ever so slightly made you question his/her judgment, or made you lose a tiny bit of respect?

If so, how did you move on from this to continue the relationship?

You make judgments all the time. Why is it so different in love relationships not to use your judgment when someone engages in activities that you don't respect?

Also, I wasn't snooping. We were having the 'information gathering' discussion, asking each other questions & this info popped out. I don't have the time or energy to snoop - LOL!
 
Yes I did find out something about my boyfriend that somewhat made me question him. But in the end I realized that I loved him for him. And anything else didn't matter. He loves me even with all my flaws So I should too
 
I have this philosophy about relationships that I either accept someone for who they are or not.. we all have things in our past that are unpleasant, questionable, or even downright embarrassing.. I would decide if it was something I could live with or not.. ie if he had been a child molestor..no way, I don't care how much I cared about him... if he sleeps with a teddy bear.. I'd laugh my butt off, but I could deal with it.:)
 
I have never really had the problem of my partner engaging in activities that I don't respect. He is by no means perfect, but I have all the respect for him in the world because he is a good, honest man and I love him. I don't think the little things are partners due matter (unless criminal or abusive) because in the end, they are good people who love us, that's all that really matters.
 
I have never really had the problem of my partner engaging in activities that I don't respect. He is by no means perfect, but I have all the respect for him in the world because he is a good, honest man and I love him. I don't think the little things are partners due matter (unless criminal or abusive) because in the end, they are good people who love us, that's all that really matters.
 
Simple. Just ask yourself these questions:
Am I perfect?
Have I never done something so awful/horrible in my entire life?
 
Unless this information was something that was illegal, why would it matter? I always thought that these infomation gathering things were stupid. He is marrying you, and you are with him. What happened in the past is just that.. the PAST.
 
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