I've been dishonest with my girfriend about my financial situation, do I tell...

[jospars]

...her the truth? I have a wonderful girlfriend which we have been together several years now, I have been dishonest, basically I have a fair amount saved & she thinks I have nothing as that is what I have always told her, should I tell her the truth? she hates lies & will she think this is a big fat one. We have just decided to set up home together.

 

[ruth]

I don't think it is necessary to "tell" her that you have money saved. You are being wise in not telling.
There are many who don't save before they 'set up home as you say"

Save your money, unless you are planning on using it to buy a home. Do what you plan to with the money. Your girlfriend should be thankful that you are able to save money as so many out there live on credit.
At least you know that she's not with you because of the money
Tell her if you think you should, but you don't have to tell her how much. It's really none of her business until after your married.
Cheers.

 

[teresathegreat]

Do you intend on marrying this girl, or forming some sort of domestic partnership / common law marriage? If so, depending on the laws of your state, she will eventually have a shared right to some or all of your financial property.
If you sign a prenuptial agreement with her, you are required by law to declare all your property to her, so both parties are aware of the fairness of the agreement.
So if you're serious about her, you'll need to tell her eventually. Sit her down and have a talk with her now. Be honest about your reasons for hiding the truth - you wanted to make sure the relationship was heading in a permanent direction, you wanted to be loved for youself and not your money, etc.