My inlaws normally call my husband once to eight times a day EACH. They text him throughout the day, email, instant message, and more.
They don't like me, never have, and I doubt they ever will. They're very negative about me, especially my father in law.
Every time my mother in law calls my husband she asks "how are you doing? Are you okay? I love you" but she says it in a very sad, pathetic-toned voice as if she's waiting for him to spill his guts about his supposed miserable life to her.
They do not support him, they discourage him in almost everything.
He is gone now in the military and I feel like they're acting like children throwing a temper tantrum. They don't have any contact with me at all and are angry that they can't talk to him every single day. They say this was my dream, not his, to be in the military. They think I'm lazy, don't take care of our children, and make up health problems as excuses to not do anything. I do not have the slightest idea where they get their crazy ideas from or what caused them in the first place nor do I have any idea on how to change their minds or prove that they are absolutely 100% wrong and always have been.
It seems they're crazy to me, irrational, and unapproachable when it comes to issues like these.
It seems I can't do a thing right.
And they don't even seem to care about their grandchildren.
They always act like they're whipped puppies on some days then on the other days they're barking dogs with huge, bloody teeth. Totally whipping back and forth between the two personalities.
I'm confused, frustrated, and well, exhausted. It seems my husband is having a hard time letting them go. I wish he'd disown them, they've been nothing but horrible grief and frustration, misery, and headache for our marriage and family.
What is your take on this? Am I totally off? Is there anything I can do to help my husband and our family and marriage?
They don't like me, never have, and I doubt they ever will. They're very negative about me, especially my father in law.
Every time my mother in law calls my husband she asks "how are you doing? Are you okay? I love you" but she says it in a very sad, pathetic-toned voice as if she's waiting for him to spill his guts about his supposed miserable life to her.
They do not support him, they discourage him in almost everything.
He is gone now in the military and I feel like they're acting like children throwing a temper tantrum. They don't have any contact with me at all and are angry that they can't talk to him every single day. They say this was my dream, not his, to be in the military. They think I'm lazy, don't take care of our children, and make up health problems as excuses to not do anything. I do not have the slightest idea where they get their crazy ideas from or what caused them in the first place nor do I have any idea on how to change their minds or prove that they are absolutely 100% wrong and always have been.
It seems they're crazy to me, irrational, and unapproachable when it comes to issues like these.
It seems I can't do a thing right.
And they don't even seem to care about their grandchildren.
They always act like they're whipped puppies on some days then on the other days they're barking dogs with huge, bloody teeth. Totally whipping back and forth between the two personalities.
I'm confused, frustrated, and well, exhausted. It seems my husband is having a hard time letting them go. I wish he'd disown them, they've been nothing but horrible grief and frustration, misery, and headache for our marriage and family.
What is your take on this? Am I totally off? Is there anything I can do to help my husband and our family and marriage?