I'm a male, and this question is about a platonic female friend of same age.
She was always cool since I first got to spend any time with her. When I had a gf she was totally cool and informative. When she had a bf during and after my gf all was cool and norm. It was after she broke up with her previous boyfriend that I got this weird thought. For the first time this person was back on the market. I didn't act on it because I like to approach things methodically.
It's been months, there is a new dude in the picture (he's cool tho) but now I catch myself thinking of when the next opportunity will come up and if I should just go for demonstrating an interest in escalating our relationship to a new level.
In addition I've even given deep consideration to another idea. We have a good thing going.. so why mess that up? I mean like sure I'll get a relationship but then it'll lend.. perhaps some jealousy and sleeping or some ugly shit I would never want to think about. Not pursuing a different type of relationship avoids all of this. Perhaps if I still feel this way about her in eight or ten years perhaps I can be so fortunate to be with her for the rest of my life?
Alternatively; she has some "freak" in her. Perhaps not too much could go wrong with my heart as long as I don't have expectations that lead to heartbreak.
Question I hope to answer:
When she breaks up with her current boyfriend should I share my feelings for her or keep everything platonic? We've got love as it is... and I don't think a great many things are worth ruining that.
She was always cool since I first got to spend any time with her. When I had a gf she was totally cool and informative. When she had a bf during and after my gf all was cool and norm. It was after she broke up with her previous boyfriend that I got this weird thought. For the first time this person was back on the market. I didn't act on it because I like to approach things methodically.
It's been months, there is a new dude in the picture (he's cool tho) but now I catch myself thinking of when the next opportunity will come up and if I should just go for demonstrating an interest in escalating our relationship to a new level.
In addition I've even given deep consideration to another idea. We have a good thing going.. so why mess that up? I mean like sure I'll get a relationship but then it'll lend.. perhaps some jealousy and sleeping or some ugly shit I would never want to think about. Not pursuing a different type of relationship avoids all of this. Perhaps if I still feel this way about her in eight or ten years perhaps I can be so fortunate to be with her for the rest of my life?
Alternatively; she has some "freak" in her. Perhaps not too much could go wrong with my heart as long as I don't have expectations that lead to heartbreak.
Question I hope to answer:
When she breaks up with her current boyfriend should I share my feelings for her or keep everything platonic? We've got love as it is... and I don't think a great many things are worth ruining that.