Is there any trick to mingle with people very easily?

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.pokiri.__

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I feel very difficulty and complex in maintaining relations with people around me. I suddenly talk irrelavent matters and i feel very tensed. Most of the people misunderstand me because of my words. I dont actualy want to hurt them but it happens. I was having bipolar. But they are not forgetting what i talked to them and showing their attitude. I have ocd,anxiety and it makes much worse because the thoughts about my past mistakes while talking to people irritate me by coming again and again into my mind. How to face it! How to face their attitude. Any suggestions??
 
think before you talk......listen and join current conversations, instead of trying to start new ones. People are self obsessed, so talk about them instead of you, untill things get comfortable. Talk about current issues, dont be the life of party but let people know you excist.
 
When you said you were having bipolar, did you mean you are bipolar and you were having a manic episode? If so, make sure you're taking all your meds, they help with the manic and slow your talking so you don't say the wrong things.
 
I suggest you learn to have better control over your thoughts.

I know... easier said than done.

When you start to think about past situations try to replace that thought with something else, to break the spell so-to-speak. Change the patterns and you will start to change the outcomes. Understand that what we dwell on in thought, in our heads is what we draw more of to ourselves because we tell our mind (subconscious) that is what we want.

I heard that some people simply picture people as being naked and they just go into the crowd and mingle.

If you feel your conversation or comments are taken wrong, make sure you are expressing what you really want to say. Most people speak in short sentences, not fully expressing themselves and they expect others to understand what they mean.

While most of us are not psychics, we need to explain ourselves better to one another. Although we can still fail... it helps.
 
You are just lacking confidence, that`s all.

You are concentrating too much on your own problems. Thinking too much of yourself.

Forget your own problems. Realise other people also have their problems and misgivings, and when you talk to people, talk about THEIR problems.
They`ll love you then.
 
Thereare stages to conversations, and i think the reason you are getting your anxiety is that you are on the improper stage. You must first master the art of letting other people talk about themselves. Ounce this is done than you can really start to impose your thoughts. Remember that there is really no consequence to talking, and mistakes are just things to learn from
 
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