she is one of my new supervisor(part time job), still in training, just the moment she walked in, I have liked her, her dignified temperament, her blonde hair. And at the same moment, she noticed me, and I knew she liked me too.We didnt interact too much, she was kinda shy, talked to everyone else but me. Gradually I noticed that her way of doing things was not very mellow, she wasnt smart either, my interest in her wore off a little, not until that day, last time we met before Christmas holidays, she paid me full attention, came up to me all the time showing interest in me in front of everyone, and dropped obvious hints, but she was nervous, and stammered a bit. I knew she wanted me to ask her out during holidays, but she was pushing me too hard and I dont even know her or her personality very well(by this time I almost forgot her, because I never thought too much and I had some other stuff on mind), so I didnt ask her out or number. I did smile back and show my interest in her. But She got upset, before I left she gave me a verbal warning for a little mistake I made.
Then after the holidays, the day we first met, her hair color changed, not blonde any more, but grey, looks like she was under cloud. without her blonde hair, I can't even recognize her, I thought she was another person, and I found that she was not able to draw my attention any more, suddently I
realized that I am only into her look..I tried hard not to let it out, and walked up to her and said" just wanna say sorry for last time", and she realized that I wasnt drawn to her as the day we last met before holidays, but she still smiled back and said"it's OK", then expected me to say more, or ask for her number, but I cant help the fact that I just dont find her attractive any more, so I smiled and walked away, when I left, I can see her almost wanna cry, and I was feeling awful and guilty. And just when I was about to cross the street to the subway station, I heard someone talked so loud behind me and I looked back, it's SHE and another supervisor(which is the one who trained her, and I think he knew about the things between me and her, and he is kinda interested in that girl too), I was feeling guilty and awful and almost want to cry, but I controled myself and walked away.
Two days later, it's not her shift, but she appeared, she's all dressed up,
and with blonde hair again! she walked pass by me several times to ensure that I noticed her, but I didnt walk up to her to say anything. When the work was off, and I was about to leave the door, she deliberately flirted with that male supervisor, in front of me, and when I tried to smile and get her attention, she just looked and smiled at me for an instant, then stared back to that supervisor. Then I walked to door, and she noticed and stepped back and blocked my way, with her back facing me, and still staring at that male supervisor, and I can see that guy was looking in her face and smiling like crazy, I was furious, I walked up and approached the girl and felt her back with my chest, then walked straight away angrily without even a look back, I was feeling so mad and jealous and heart broken.
Am I being emotionally abused? Is she trying to bait me in and fool me around? Is this workplace harassment and bully?
Then after the holidays, the day we first met, her hair color changed, not blonde any more, but grey, looks like she was under cloud. without her blonde hair, I can't even recognize her, I thought she was another person, and I found that she was not able to draw my attention any more, suddently I
realized that I am only into her look..I tried hard not to let it out, and walked up to her and said" just wanna say sorry for last time", and she realized that I wasnt drawn to her as the day we last met before holidays, but she still smiled back and said"it's OK", then expected me to say more, or ask for her number, but I cant help the fact that I just dont find her attractive any more, so I smiled and walked away, when I left, I can see her almost wanna cry, and I was feeling awful and guilty. And just when I was about to cross the street to the subway station, I heard someone talked so loud behind me and I looked back, it's SHE and another supervisor(which is the one who trained her, and I think he knew about the things between me and her, and he is kinda interested in that girl too), I was feeling guilty and awful and almost want to cry, but I controled myself and walked away.
Two days later, it's not her shift, but she appeared, she's all dressed up,
and with blonde hair again! she walked pass by me several times to ensure that I noticed her, but I didnt walk up to her to say anything. When the work was off, and I was about to leave the door, she deliberately flirted with that male supervisor, in front of me, and when I tried to smile and get her attention, she just looked and smiled at me for an instant, then stared back to that supervisor. Then I walked to door, and she noticed and stepped back and blocked my way, with her back facing me, and still staring at that male supervisor, and I can see that guy was looking in her face and smiling like crazy, I was furious, I walked up and approached the girl and felt her back with my chest, then walked straight away angrily without even a look back, I was feeling so mad and jealous and heart broken.
Am I being emotionally abused? Is she trying to bait me in and fool me around? Is this workplace harassment and bully?