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(by the way, we live in different states.)
Okay, my friend and her bf have been datring since august. She is 16 and he is 23 I beleive. Lately,(masy 2 months) he has been talking about sex, a bit saying he is really sad she won't have sex with him, and even sadder she wants to wait till marrige, and at minium get married at 23. He wants to have her get married to him as soon as she can, at 18. So she is out today, I IM'd him to chat, and sex came up. I'll copy and paste:
Him:
"------does not want to do anything with me until we are married which she says will be in 11 years which essentially would make me a 34 year old virgin"
Me: Dude, are you serious? Is sex THAT important for you to have a relationship with her? It shouldn't be that big a deal that it becomes a problem for you. Dude, it's her choice, respect it. I know I shouldn't be poking my head in for this, but that statement seemed really odd. Who cares if your a 34 year old virgin dude, you have a wonderful girlfriend, shouldn't that be enough?
Him
now he starts acting smarter.)
It may seem that way to you, but your probably just too young to understand. It's naive to claim that sex isn't a big deal in a relationship and that if you loved someone enough, you could 'just wait'.
Sexual attraction and 'chemisty' are what differentiates romantic relationships from friendships.
Good sex is important, it is connecting and actually makes chemicals come into your body that makes you feel a repore with that person, a chemical bond that produces hormones the we perceive as love.
No it should not be mistaken for love, and an emotional connection, good communication and other things that bond us to a significant other should always be present when we have sex, but sex is a natural, wonderful thing that makes us feel alive.
at any rate i really dont feel like going farther into this with you, its for me and her to deal with
I feel like he is just after sex with her, and making crap up to throw me off because I talk to her a lot on trying to keep her from giving in.
Is he really sincere, or is he just after sex? By the way, she is 17 in april, and he 24 in april.
Okay, my friend and her bf have been datring since august. She is 16 and he is 23 I beleive. Lately,(masy 2 months) he has been talking about sex, a bit saying he is really sad she won't have sex with him, and even sadder she wants to wait till marrige, and at minium get married at 23. He wants to have her get married to him as soon as she can, at 18. So she is out today, I IM'd him to chat, and sex came up. I'll copy and paste:
Him:
"------does not want to do anything with me until we are married which she says will be in 11 years which essentially would make me a 34 year old virgin"
Me: Dude, are you serious? Is sex THAT important for you to have a relationship with her? It shouldn't be that big a deal that it becomes a problem for you. Dude, it's her choice, respect it. I know I shouldn't be poking my head in for this, but that statement seemed really odd. Who cares if your a 34 year old virgin dude, you have a wonderful girlfriend, shouldn't that be enough?
Him
now he starts acting smarter.)It may seem that way to you, but your probably just too young to understand. It's naive to claim that sex isn't a big deal in a relationship and that if you loved someone enough, you could 'just wait'.
Sexual attraction and 'chemisty' are what differentiates romantic relationships from friendships.
Good sex is important, it is connecting and actually makes chemicals come into your body that makes you feel a repore with that person, a chemical bond that produces hormones the we perceive as love.
No it should not be mistaken for love, and an emotional connection, good communication and other things that bond us to a significant other should always be present when we have sex, but sex is a natural, wonderful thing that makes us feel alive.
at any rate i really dont feel like going farther into this with you, its for me and her to deal with
I feel like he is just after sex with her, and making crap up to throw me off because I talk to her a lot on trying to keep her from giving in.
Is he really sincere, or is he just after sex? By the way, she is 17 in april, and he 24 in april.