doing so because you're 17, or 21 or 60 isn't a great reason.
as for your question, there's no one answer. It's like music, where there are only 12 notes, and they can be played without passion or with little interest. Or it can done well, but not in the style that you like. It's a matter of finding the right context, person and style. Then it'll be awesome. There's good music, bad music, good sex and boring. It's a matter of fdiscovering your favorite band, and your sexual style and right partner.