It's not the way it sounds. We've been friends for years, she is 38, divorced and desperately wanted a baby - I just supplied the means to make it happen. We never even made love - she used a kitchen utensil, so I don't know how my wife can be so selfish. I really think I did an selfless act & imagined my wife would commend me for being such a good guy to my best buddy.
My friend and I talked through what would happen. She didn't want to go to a donor clinic, I was honoured to be asked. I was to play no real part in the child's life - my role was to supply the means to have a child to my friend - not to play dad. I would however be a godfather. My friend had her own successful company - and as I was a donor I wouldn't be financially liable.
My wife hated the idea. We have one child - she wants more, I don't. So she hated the idea that I would give my friend a child not her - that is really selfish as we have a child! She pointed out that I may feel attached & if that happened she would leave & wouldn't want to have anything to do with the child. She made it quite clear that she wasn't on board, but if I went ahead it was to be as a benevolent act & our child would not 'share' daddy. I agreed to this - I thought I could control it.
Well I went to scans, & found myself more involved. My friend wanted me there for the birth - I wanted to be, my wife went mad saying that I should only be there for the birth of our kids. I assured her that I wasn't emotionally attached - of course I was.
So here I am. I apologised to my wife. She told me that she'd warned me this would happen, and that if it did she'd leave. I begged her to stay... my friend's company folded & she is now bankrupt. My wife inherited a large amount of money - I wanted to give my friend some (after all it is my baby) & set up a trust fund for the baby - my wife told me to f*** off!!! My biggest wish would be to have all my family (friend and baby included) to christmas... my wife has left. She has already consulted a solicitor. She refuses counselling, which she SHOULD GO TO to so they can tell her she is selfish. Why is she so selfish???
My friend and I talked through what would happen. She didn't want to go to a donor clinic, I was honoured to be asked. I was to play no real part in the child's life - my role was to supply the means to have a child to my friend - not to play dad. I would however be a godfather. My friend had her own successful company - and as I was a donor I wouldn't be financially liable.
My wife hated the idea. We have one child - she wants more, I don't. So she hated the idea that I would give my friend a child not her - that is really selfish as we have a child! She pointed out that I may feel attached & if that happened she would leave & wouldn't want to have anything to do with the child. She made it quite clear that she wasn't on board, but if I went ahead it was to be as a benevolent act & our child would not 'share' daddy. I agreed to this - I thought I could control it.
Well I went to scans, & found myself more involved. My friend wanted me there for the birth - I wanted to be, my wife went mad saying that I should only be there for the birth of our kids. I assured her that I wasn't emotionally attached - of course I was.
So here I am. I apologised to my wife. She told me that she'd warned me this would happen, and that if it did she'd leave. I begged her to stay... my friend's company folded & she is now bankrupt. My wife inherited a large amount of money - I wanted to give my friend some (after all it is my baby) & set up a trust fund for the baby - my wife told me to f*** off!!! My biggest wish would be to have all my family (friend and baby included) to christmas... my wife has left. She has already consulted a solicitor. She refuses counselling, which she SHOULD GO TO to so they can tell her she is selfish. Why is she so selfish???