Is my personality rude?

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A musician from Taiwan

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Basically, I've always been a really quiet person. I don't usually socialize with others because I can't talk very well or hold a conversation together. I don't have any friends that I hang out with other than saying hello in class. I spend the majority of my time at my apartment alone doing my college work and browsing the net. I know this is a reflection of my childhood and all of growing up. I spent the majority of my life sitting in my room with my brother and listening to my parents scream and hit eachother day and night. After the divorce - my dad moved out. My mother then turned on my brother and I. Then my brother moved out. And...well I'm sure you know what happened next. But I made it out and I'm here now on my own. I'm not sure why I'm making this post I apologize, just venting.



Also, I'm taking a public speaking class (required) with one of the most strict professors on the subject. It is a LIVING HELL getting up and doing 10 minute speeches and I cannot wait until it is over.. :(
 
You are starting your life as a responsible-for-yourself person. This is your chance!! Reinvent yourself. There will be nobody to say "Jeez, what is Fred THINKING! He has gone all different!" The people around you will accept the new you. It is just a question of thinking hard about the qualities you wish to show, eg, confidence, interest, anything like that. Become a good listener, learn to active listen, read book on assertiveness, confidence-building and LIVE it. It sounds weird and over simple I know, but I did it when I changed jobs. I pretended to be this breezy confident capable person (then ran home and studied up on the actual stuff at night). It worked and I became that person; I still am. If I had tried it at my old job, they would have thought I was on something, but the new people only knew me like that. Give it a go, Sera.
 
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