Is my mother-in-law mad at me, and should she be?

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I am very picky about who holds my 5 month old baby and my husbands family knows that, But Sat. at a wedding my mother-in-law had my baby and when I turned around she was passing him off to somone I had never saw in my life. I didn't care that it was a wedding I went and got him. When My Husband confronted her she said that she knew the woman.I think that it was wrong of her for doing that,But now she won't answer her phone. I am sooo confused. What should I do?
 
Sweetie,

Your a mother you should feel that way. Being protective over your child is natural, and if your mother in law can accept the fact that you have a stronger motherly instinct of the protection of your child, her grand child, then let her be mad.

I personally wouldn't want someone I didn't know...ever if MIL did holding my 2 or 1 yr old. My youngest had surgery right after birth around her belly button, and MIL was showing it off once....I was soooo mad. I confronted her about it, and it felt great. I mean I wasn't rude it just wasn't her area.

Anyways don't let yourself think you over reacted, what you did is normal. And as any parent would know, you never leave your children go, no matter how old they get....that motherly instinct will always be with you..as your child gets older you learn to you tend to be less protective. Hope I helped. And if MIL is mad...she'll get over it! hehe
 
I definitely think you overreacted.

Your mother in-law said the woman was a friend of hers, and I am sure the friend of your MIL's was perfectly capable of holding a baby. Do you honestly think your mother in-law would hand the baby off to a stranger and just walk away? By rushing off to snatch the baby away from the woman, you probably embarrassed your mother in-law, sent the distinct message that you didn't trust her judgment, and made both of you look bad to the friend.

Loosen up. He isn't going to break, and people love holding babies. If you bring him to an event like a wedding, you have to expect that family members and friends are going to want to hold him. If it's that much of a problem for you, get a babysitter and don't bring him with you.

Send her a brief note, apologizing to her for your behavior.
 
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