is my boyfriend just with me for sex?

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im 14 years old and i've been going out with my boyfriend derek for about a year
we've never had sex before. im a virgin and he's not
he never pressures me to do anything im not ready for
but of course every once in a while he tries his luck
whenever i say no he accuses me of having sex with other guys
i asked some people yesterday why he does that and they all think it's because he wants me for sex
but i think if he was just with me for sex he would have left by now
i don't think he would have stayed with me after a year of me not giving in
i just don't really have the desire for it yet so i don't do it
he doesn't even get that mad most of the time
and he's so sweet and i love him so much and i would just hate to think that he's just with me for sex
but of course im blinded by his love and i can't see the situation clearly so that's why i'm asking you guys
is he just with me for sex?
but i am in love with him. but i don't feel that just because i am in love with him i shiuld have sex with him. im just not ready.

and he always tells me he wants to be my first. i just tell him that if he really loves me he'll be my first when we're older and still together and then he says you're right babe...
he's 14 too almost 15
 
Well, I could understand since your 14 you do not have the urge for sex which is nothing wrong with that. However is your boyfriend Derek older than you? I mean a lot older, possibly his 20s? Are you giving him materialistic items like are you giving him money or buying him things like clothes, watches, etc. If so he could be using you for those things. If not, because the age different he is trying to manipulate you, meaning taking advantage because you are so in love you would do anything he says. I don't think he is using you for sex because you aren't giving him any. However, If he is not the committed type, I definitely think he is getting it else where, from other girls. You can ask him all you want but he will never admit to it. I'm not trying to sound mean but I'm telling you from my own experiences, and you know how messed up guys could be! So be smart girl, if you don't think he's with you for the right reasons you could be giving your love to someone who will love you back! Best of luck.
 
If you even have to question it, the answer is probably "yes".

You're 14. You're not in love, you don't even know what "love" is.
 
Definately, and just because he isn't having it with you, why do you assume he isn't having any?
 
You are 14... wether you think you love him or not doesnt matter because you are not sure wether you think you are or not... maybe you do but you cant be sure.. you are simply too young...
if you want to do it with someone you love then wait...
 
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