Brandon Sulls
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Dear Yahoo Community,
I am in a bit of a dilemma with a girl I like. This will be a tad long but bear with me. We have known each other for about fifteen years. We are the same age and go to the same church. However, we had barely talked to each other now because of a certain incident that took place five years ago. Five years ago, we were literally talking to each other everyday about our day, future plans, and etc. Before I tell you the next part, please take into consideration that I was really young and immature ( what do you expect from a teenage boy). In our church, we have an organization for younger children to be active in church. I was one of the higher officials for this group. The gist of this story I made some bad remarks on my president( a girl who is actually the girl's best friend). I wasn't trying to make the person to look bad, but she was really doing a terrible job in her position which even other members of the group saw too. (It was a bit of my fault cause I made the remarks publicly.) Anyways, I know she was trying to ruin my reputation. She basically turned half my friends against me (mostly the girls and including the girl I like). Now back to the present, my reputation is stable. Mostly everyone in church respects me. She really can't do nothing to actually ruin my reputation. However, every sunday she hangs out with the same girls and I know they still talk about me in my back (Mostly my former president does the talking). Few things about this girl( my former president) is really hostile as in doesn't really like to be made fun of, tries to act out, will defend her self publicly (even when the situation is really meaningless) . The reason I am talking about my former president is that she tells everything to the girl I like and makes me look like the bad person. Back to the present, I am not the same person that I was five years ago. I really outgrew my immature acts (there is a bit immaturity in me still what ever i am guy), living better lifestyle, and respect people opinions and emotions. Finally, the million dollar question is should I attempt to talk to the girl I like. Technically I am not scared, I know I would have to explain my self. The hard part is now really getting to talk to her alone. If I do get that chance, my conscience says there is a high chance that she will tell my former president and might again ruin my reputation at church (basically make myself look like a fool). I do notice now that she does talk to me a bit more, sits near to me with her friend when I am talking to friends or family members of mine, also I know that a couple of months ago she did actually talk to me (During that time, I didn’t explain my self and kept it bottled up).I really don't know what that means. I know this was really alot to take in. I really would appreciate honest answers on what I should do.
I am in a bit of a dilemma with a girl I like. This will be a tad long but bear with me. We have known each other for about fifteen years. We are the same age and go to the same church. However, we had barely talked to each other now because of a certain incident that took place five years ago. Five years ago, we were literally talking to each other everyday about our day, future plans, and etc. Before I tell you the next part, please take into consideration that I was really young and immature ( what do you expect from a teenage boy). In our church, we have an organization for younger children to be active in church. I was one of the higher officials for this group. The gist of this story I made some bad remarks on my president( a girl who is actually the girl's best friend). I wasn't trying to make the person to look bad, but she was really doing a terrible job in her position which even other members of the group saw too. (It was a bit of my fault cause I made the remarks publicly.) Anyways, I know she was trying to ruin my reputation. She basically turned half my friends against me (mostly the girls and including the girl I like). Now back to the present, my reputation is stable. Mostly everyone in church respects me. She really can't do nothing to actually ruin my reputation. However, every sunday she hangs out with the same girls and I know they still talk about me in my back (Mostly my former president does the talking). Few things about this girl( my former president) is really hostile as in doesn't really like to be made fun of, tries to act out, will defend her self publicly (even when the situation is really meaningless) . The reason I am talking about my former president is that she tells everything to the girl I like and makes me look like the bad person. Back to the present, I am not the same person that I was five years ago. I really outgrew my immature acts (there is a bit immaturity in me still what ever i am guy), living better lifestyle, and respect people opinions and emotions. Finally, the million dollar question is should I attempt to talk to the girl I like. Technically I am not scared, I know I would have to explain my self. The hard part is now really getting to talk to her alone. If I do get that chance, my conscience says there is a high chance that she will tell my former president and might again ruin my reputation at church (basically make myself look like a fool). I do notice now that she does talk to me a bit more, sits near to me with her friend when I am talking to friends or family members of mine, also I know that a couple of months ago she did actually talk to me (During that time, I didn’t explain my self and kept it bottled up).I really don't know what that means. I know this was really alot to take in. I really would appreciate honest answers on what I should do.