Is it weird to have NOT FOUND YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE YET at a new high school after

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its been 8 months already? i moved to california at the beginning of this school year and joined a new high school. from the beginning of the year, there was a friend group i totally wanted to be in, and i STILL want to be in their group......BUT I STILL am not in their group.

IT'S BEEN 8 MONTHS ALREADY, and I still haven't found my place at my new high school...
is that weird?
some of the girls that joined last year (i heard from some peeps) seemed to have joined certain groups first, and were changed in to different groups by the end of the school year...

is it weird that i STILL haven't found my RIGHTFUL PLACE at a new high school...and STILL haven't joined the friend group i rlly wanna join after its been 8 months?
 
We need more info... is this the athlete group? The preppy group? Every high school is essentially the same, with the same groups and the same insecurities. My advice is to get involved in sports, theater or some other activities. This will help you find your niche. Also, don't forget that even the "cool" kids in the popular group have all the same insecurities and worries about being accepted as you do, sometimes moreso.
 
Introduce yourself to them and sit down. Talk the talk with them. You'll have either 2 outcomes (abandoned or IN)... I never went for the group belonging in schools. Still don't. I came out fine and was known through the whole school. Not for having peeps... but for fighting and not taking crap from people (even other students parents). Wasn't easy... but in the end... I found out that the whole school and the student body liked me and rallied to get me back when I got removed. Some things never change... I'm still smiling. ;)
 
dude... f*** them, make your own style.. let them come to you.

join the sports team, join the band, chess club, whatever, make your own style, make them think what you're doing is way more important than them and they'll come running to you :D

but dont wait for them to "RECRUIT" you!! thats not right.

looks to me that they are stuck up snobs, so you're better off finding someone you can actually relate to and someone who will actually be there for you when you're in trouble.

anyways, i hope this helps you.
 
Relax. I'm not sure what grade you're in, but eight months out of four years isn't a long time. I was never very social, but it wasn't until my junior year that I found my place, came out of my shell and became well-liked.

Have you tried talking to these people you want to be friends with? If shyness is the only thing holding you back, don't let it. Don't have regrets, If they've told you they don't want you hanging around them (or that they want you to change in order to be with them), don't waste your time on them. Find some new friends.
 
have you reviewed your reasons WHY you want to join this particular group??

If I were you, I would stop trying so hard. Just be friendly, be sincere, and don't be anything more or less than who you truly are. People that are compatible will find you, as soon as you stop looing so hard, and stop trying to fit in with a crowd that probably just isn't you.

This is why I hated high school. And what I hate about Americans high schools especially. Why in hell is it so important to have a "rightful place"? To feel like you belong?

Concentrate on your school work and stop fussing over stupid stuff.

Oh yeah, to answer the question.... No, it's not weird.
 
JUST be friends with everybody!!! That's the way to go.
Who gives a shit what group you are in, that just limits you to meeting all different kinds of people. Talk about boring.
 
if you haven't been accepted into a group, it's most likely because you're trying too hard and coming off as desperate. don't restrict yourself to one group; talk to everyone and anyone. you may never fit into a particular group, but you'll make more actual friends this way.
 
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