Is it weird that I find my boyfriend's need to touch me all the time annoying?

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Chi

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My boyfriend is the sensitive type, and I am more guarded with my emotions. Lately I have been getting really irritated when he is constantly hugging me, kissing my neck, putting his arm around my waist, etc. It seems like most women would like this behavior, but it drives me up the wall! When I push him away I feel terrible, because I don't want to be a cold b****. I do love him, but I'm not sure if this is a sign of a problem with me, or that our relationship might be in trouble.

(Hormonal issues aren't a concern, I have the same feelings no matter what time of the month it is.)
 
Some people are just naturally more affectionate than others, so I wouldn't say that there is anything wrong with you.
But you might want to re evaluate your relationship with this guy...do you like being physical with him on occasion? Or does it irritate you ALL the time when he is trying to be physically affectionate with you?
Do you love him? Do you enjoy his company? Is everything else in your relationship satisfactory?
If you have other problems, this could have something to do with those. But I think you are fine. Most people don't want another person hanging off of them 24 hours a day. I mean, I love being affectionate with my boyfriend, but if he wanted to do that sh*t all the time, I might get irritated. Everyone has a 'bubble' and everyone needs their personal space.
There isn't anything wrong with you, especially if you are this way with everyone. Just let him know as kindly as possible that you like being affectionate, but he might be doing it a little too often. It's going to be difficult not to hurt his feelings, but I think that you can minimize the emotional damage to him if you word things correctly...
 
There is no problem with you or the relationship, some people just need their space. Just tell him (nicely) that you do love him but sometimes you feel smothered and you need some space. If he loves you, he'll understand.
 
If you feel bad when you push him away, then that shows that you do care about him, and know how he feels so i don't think that should be a sign of a problem with your relationship. Pushing him away could be a sign that another problem you might be having is bothering you subconsciously and is why you don't want him to be like that with you, or maybe you just want him to do it, but not as much, i don't see what's different about that, plenty of people can not mind their girlfriend and boyfriend doing that sometimes, but not all the time.
 
If you feel bad when you push him away, then that shows that you do care about him, and know how he feels so i don't think that should be a sign of a problem with your relationship. Pushing him away could be a sign that another problem you might be having is bothering you subconsciously and is why you don't want him to be like that with you, or maybe you just want him to do it, but not as much, i don't see what's different about that, plenty of people can not mind their girlfriend and boyfriend doing that sometimes, but not all the time.
 
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