Is it right that a dead child should remain unburied/cremated for 21 years ?

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We read the tragic story of a dead four month old baby boy that has been kept in a mortuary for 21 years after his family withdrew their consent for a funeral to go ahead. The parents apparently dispute the cause of death. While understandibly investigations should take place into the cause of death etc but should it really take 21 years ?!!!

Enfield council will now bury the boy's remains in a north London cemetery whether his family are there or not.

Is it right that a dead child should remain unburied/cremated for 21 years ?

Source: http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2008/sep/24/health.localgovernment
 
Its a very sad and tragic tale and it shows the extent of the depth of love these parents feel. Maybe if they go ahead they would feel like they had done their child an injustice but unfortunately when professionals stick together there will be no good outcome and the suffering of those affected never touches the surface... I hope they find the strength to let the child rest as I always believe that justice will be served someday, somehow..:(
 
NO ITS NOT RIGHT. HE DESERVES TO HAVE PEACE AND FINALY B LAID TO REST WAY SOONER THAN THAT. THAT POOR CHILD.
 
this is a classic and extreme grief reaction, the parents will not accept the loss of their child and by continuing to refuse to consent to the death certificate and burial, they continue to live in grieving limbo and therefore will not be able to come to terms with his death. they will be unable to move on if they dont accept the situation. funerals are part of that process and to refuse to attend and give consent, they demonstrate they are still unable to move their emotions forward, its very sad, they will continue to stay in the same emotional place for the rest of their lives if they dont change.
 
That's a real sticky wicket there isn't it mate? The child is dead and feels nor knows nothing. Funerals are for the living and if the parents suspect foul play then they are at a loss because once the body has been turned to ashes then all viable evidence is gone.
I don't think it's right under the circumstances but is it really all that wrong? People keep the ashes of their loved ones on mantelpieces for decades and take the ashes with themselves to the grave. I see no difference in a child's ashes.
But then many will attach a sentimentality to the child's soul and wish, as well as want a proper burial. As I said, funerals are for the living.
 
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