Is it reasonable to not want to discuss baby names with friends/family?

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What is a good way to answer people when you want to keep the name deciding between you and your spouse/partner? I don't need to be snippy, but people think it's their business when it's not. It's not like we won't tell them the baby's name when it's born.
 
Honestly, I agree with you. It's you and your partner choice to name your baby because you and your partner made/adopted him or her, not your parents or your in-laws or your friends.

What I would say if somebody says:
"Oh you should name your baby Adain/Jessie/Cookie!"
You should say:
"That might be a good name for our baby" and then DROP THE SUBJECT!
Or
"Thanks for the imput. We'll consider that" even if you don't want to consider it at all.

Because if you say:
"Well I'm thinking that's not such a good choice..."
Your friend/in-law/ mom will go on and on defending why Adain/Jessie/Cookie is the best name for your baby when it's not even their baby!

Just thank them for their imput and drop the subject.

I really hope that helps Waiting for #2! :) Congrats on your second one!
 
Just say " were still trying to figure it out" that's what I say because your right, it's none of there business.
 
I would advise keeping it to yourself. My MIL pretty much turned my husband off of a name that we had decided on for our second daughter, and I'm still upset to this day!!! If they keep pressing you, just give them some generic names that they can't find fault with and leave it as a suprise when the time actually comes. Otherwise, they will make you crazy w/ suggestions and second-guessing your choices. Good luck!
 
We had the name before I was even pregnant (they didn't know that). We told them we were happy for any suggestions, but that the final decision would be a secret. Everyone took it really well. For some reason everyone loves sitting around and throwing names around - and it makes them feel part of it. We may use some of the suggestions for our next child.
 
just say "we haven't decided yet, and we won't do it until we have the baby" and not much more.
 
My friends are doing this as well. Since they found out the sex they decided to wait to tell people the name. They just tell people they're revealing the name after his birth because they want something to remain a mystery and there to be an element of surprise. Her mom came up with the ugliest name thinkable and has been calling the baby that as a joke. I LOVE the idea and if God willing I have a second child we will definitely do this! That way no one will have their opinion on the name you choose too. We got some flak from my husbands parents because we decided to spell our sons name Jaxon and not Jackson. It's no one's business but you and your husbands :)

Congrats! Good Luck & God Bless!
 
Yeah, my wife and i wouldnt and our family got all weird about it. We couldnt decide between us and didnt want the outside influence. They got over it.
 
Just say you a few in mind, and did not decided
You may wait to see the child to make an decision
You do not want to tell people until you know the name 100%

This should be okay for most
 
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