it seems as if someone I know likes it when things are messed up for them. For the last 10 years this person has been self destructing himself, and every time he does start to do good he does something to hurt his situation. This person had 5 kids and a lovely almost wife but didn't know what he wanted. This person is very smart but has a way of screwing up all the time. He writes and this fuels his creative side but is leaving him homeless. Is it possible to be addicted or drawn to just chaos in general? How does one stop their self-destruct ways?